Since I am in the health care field I am also having to maintain a pristine clearance as well. My ex H is the one who keeps trying to ruin me I ran from him and now my ss15 is becoming an issue. It's so hard. Maybe first you can sit down and have a very open discussion with dh about this. If he doesn't listen then it might be that you will have to chose your job over your dh. Man, if only you'd known this with ss before getting married. YIKES. Luckily no kids yet with dh right?

If you aren't willing to bail on your marriage, then you need to take steps to protect yourself which first and foremost means Never be alone with this child. EVER. Always have a witness. BM will ruin your life if she can.

I would also recommend not participating in pick ups or drops off if she's nuts enough to call the police over someone being 15 minutes late.

The kid also needs to be put in therapy and your DH needs to actively work against the PAS. You may be the first target, but the accusations against your husband will start eventually too.

You also need to get your husband on the same page as you - I don't know how you guys stand financially, but if your income is important, maybe that's the best approach to make him understand. Even false allegations could completely ruin your career and if it comes at the hands of his child, when there was warning and DH did nothing to stop it, you will wind up hating him. If it still seems unimportant to him, seriously consider walking away unless you really believe that you will be ok staying with a man oh whom you could be totally financially dependent and seeing the child that ruined the career you worked so hard for on a regular basis.

Is there anyone in your field of work you can report this to, or even just discuss it with so that it is on record BEFORE there is an incident. Surely your supervisor or someone would be able to take a report and note down your concerns about this child and his mother.

What you are claiming has happened is not unheard of so there is no reason you would not be believed. However, you have been given fair warning that this is probably going to be a problem for you in the future (the child gave you that warning when he said you were mean to him and you hurt his knee), once this happens and it will happen, you of course will be investigated, even if you are cleared, and there are no guarantees about that, innocent people sometimes do get blamed, but as I said if you are cleared, the old saying where's there smoke there's fire is true enough, it will be on your record, and someone somewhere down the track may think twice about employing you.

Yes, I agree this needs to be discussed with your husband, but I think you need to discuss this with your employer first and then discuss it with your husband, that way you have all the facts as to how this could damage you personally and career wise before you speak to him.

She has already called the police once and informed them the child was kidnapped, you know this was not just talk on her part because you yourself spoke with the police.

You have to understand your husband cannot fix this. He has no control over whatever reports she may or may not make to the police, he has no control over what that child is going to say. The older the child gets the more dangerous this will become. Buying him toys may be seen as blackmail to keep his mouth shut. Your only option is to put it out there and make sure that your employer or someone in authority is aware of the situation. You need to protect yourself and your career, because the truth is, your husband, no matter how much he may want to, cannot.

If you and your husband have children together and this SS makes a false report against you, or his mother does, you stand the risk of having your children removed from the home while it is being investigated, as well as losing your career.

I am very sorry your are in this position, however I do think you need to start thinking very clearly with your head here and protecting yourself. As far as her reporting the child kidnapped, can you file charges, or can the police charge her with making a false report. Documenting a history against her would also be a form of protection for you down the track. I think you're going to need it. Even if you just get a copy from the police of that report and their response to you. Still, you need to discuss this with your supervisor and they need to note it on your record. You also need to let them know she has already reported this so called kidnapping. This is serious stuff.

I too need clearances for my employment. I made it very clear to DH when BM tried this crap with a neighbor that if the was any hint, i would never spend time alone with SD. & if that wasn't enough he would have to visit elsewhere.

Your DH needs to punish this kid for lying.
You should never be alone with him again.
Warn DH he needs to be prepared to visit elsewhere if this continues.