It depends on a lot of factors. My DH moved across country, away from his 10-11 year old daughter. BM engaged in PAS, however, while he was nearby he had a very good relationship with SD. 6 years later, after a substantial amount of PAS by BM and the distance after the move their relationship has deteriorated. It cost us about $5,000 to get a visitation schedule that consisted of 3 visits a year during the holidays plus 5 weeks in summer. But after only 3 or so years we decided not to force her to come because it was way too stressful for everyone involved. The visits were strained because of substantial PAS and due to her resentment over his move, as well as her emerging personality disorder. SD just turned 17 and has dropped out of school halfway through 11th grade and has serious behavioral issues. She was just diagnosed with BPD and Bipolar after a cutting/suicide attempt. I don't know for sure if his move played a part in her disorder but if you too have a PAS'n BM you might want to research it and/or talk it over with SS first, depending on his age. We're not sure if she would have developed the disorder with or without the move, who knows, she might have been worse off if he had stayed. There's a lot less conflict due to the distance. It's something for you to consider. I keep stressing PAS because I think it's was a huge factor in our situation, and by your question it sounds like you've got the same concern. Same as with BVD, total nightmare.