Talked to the kid a couple of times this week.
He is in SpermLand splitting his time between THEM and my wife and her family.
He sounds great. He is engaged in his own life, enjoying the USAF, excited and nervous about reporting to his advanced training/long term duty station on Monday AM, and he seems to be enjoying both his time with H and her family and his time with the SpermClan as much as you can enjoy time with vitriolic toxic dipshits.
Interestingly, the first time we spoke, he commented that his mom seemed sad when I asked him how she was doing. She has been struggling with the marrital challenges of her BFF and her cousin on her bio-dads side of the family and it apparently shows.
The second time we spoke he said his mom was happy and they were having a good time. The two of them are very connected emotionally and when one is cranky or sad the other picks up on it and mirrors it very closely. So when he said she was doing better and was happy, that is a good thing.
His time in SpermLand has been split as follows. 2days with SpermGrandMa and the SpermIdiot half sibs. 2days with my wife and her family. 2days with the SpermIdiot. 2days with my wife. 2 more days with SpermGrandMa and the half spawn.
The last time we spoke was after he left the SpermIdiots after two days. He told me and later shared the same with his mom that....
"(Dad) was talking this freaky kharma and chee stuff. How can a man who does not support his children and makes the bad decisions that he makes think he will have anythng but bad kharma? I don't even know that man."
On one hand this makes me sad. No kid should have to deal with a worthless POS parent. On the other it makes me grin. His mom and I are kind and good people of character and have raised him accordingly. He knows it.
Some things never change. I just hope that my son is not giving them money. They put the guilt trip on him regularly and so far with the exception of paying for a WoW subscription for his dipshit spermdonor and his half sibs he has not sent them any money. I can't help but think that this Kharma/chee crap from the SpermIdiot are the opening salvos of a push for money from my kid. I truly detest these people.
His bank statements go to his mom. Other than the Blizzard (WoW) account all of his expenses are on base or local to his duty station .... so far.
Overall he is doing well and I am proud of his effort and decisions.
Life is good in Sparent land right now.
Too bad the SpermClan still exists but over all I am pleased with how my kid's life is progressing, so is his mom and most importantly .... so is he.
Regards,
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Rags, I always enjoy your
Rags, I always enjoy your posts. I love how you say that your son is your son. I believe it's the truth and I think it's pretty ballsy to say so, especially when so many people are so preoccupied with biological contributions/donations.
Keep us posted. Your story is one of my favorites, and gives me alot of hope and alot of . . . courage. I think that is the word I'm looking for. You've conquered alot, and it's incredibly impressive to anyone who's been there.
Thanks Hedge, I wish I could
Thanks Hedge,
I wish I could find it in myself to forgive THEM and ignore their crap. We are a year plus past the expiration of the CO, have had zero interface with them, and still I get pretty pissed about their idiot crap.
Particularly since it impacts my kid.
We all inherrit baggage from our families and at some point in our lives it becomes our duty to solve those problems for ourselves. They are our problems at some point and we either solve them or perpetuate the problem
Fortunately for most children parents try very hard to not burden their children with a bunch of baggage and toxic crap.
Unfortunately in blended family situations one side of the equation or the other often seems to miss that parental duty.