Please give me your thoughts so I can gain some clarity.....
We are closing on the sale of our extra home on Thurs.
As part of the sale negotiation the buyers requested a number of minor repairs. In lieu of those repairs we offered them a $500 repair allowance that they will receive at closing and they can do whatever repairs they choose. They accepted with the exception of wanting us to have a sprinkler head on irrigation zone 1. We agreed to have that repaired.
Our renters (since 2012) moved out on the 4th and in violation of the lease agreement they immediately had the utilities turned off. We could not complete the repairs without power and water. I requested an estimate from our repair contractor regarding replacing a sprinkler head. $35 was his response. We gave the buyers our repair contractor's name and contact information. They called him regarding the repair. He confirmed the $35 plus a $100 service call fee. He gave us a break on service calls due to the $1800 of repairs we had done when we first listed, plus the $600 in make ready that was completed yesterday and the $250 for his cleaning crew that will complete the cleaning on Wed. The make ready and cleaning will come out of our renter's deposit and is not specifically related to the sale of the home.
So, the buyers requested $200 for the irrigation system repair. I agreed.
I called my bride after authorizing our agent to accept the request for an additional $200 in repair allowance. She got extremely irritated and went on a rant about how the buyers are pissing her off and "nickling and diming" us on this. Her response took me by surprise a bit though it probably shouldn't have. She generally does not trust people while I generally do until they give me reason to believe otherwise.
In response to her irritated rant I reacted rather than listening and told her that the were doing no such thing, that I thought their response was reasonable and that if I were the buyer I would do the same thing.
She ended the call at that point. Obviously I said the wrong thing.
She will occasionally get very wrapped up in being the victim of manipulative people in situations that do not IMHO have anything to do with people taking advantage of her.
She is amazing with numbers so her reaction to an additional $200 in repair allowance (a total of $700) on the sale of a $300K home is surprising to me. My suspicion is that this has more to do with the uncertainty of my job situation as well as the home we are selling is the last home the three of us lived in prior to SS-26 launching.
She is currently the sole earner and is approaching a year with the firm she renewed her career with after a 7 year hiatus while we were overseas. She also just finished a killer tax season of 12-15 hour days for 8 weeks straight with zero days off. So I get that there are likely a number of things in play regarding her reaction to the $200.
I have been unemployed for 10 weeks though opportunities have been gaining traction over the past few weeks. I have three options that are approaching the offer stage. So that portion of her tensions should be approaching an end in the next month or so.
This past year has been traumatic beyond just re-engaging in her career and my job. We lost her dad in June of 2018, closed on a new home on June 29 and I broke my leg on Sept 8. The elimination of my role on March 1 was pretty much the capping event on a series of tough situations.
I would appreciate some lady perspective and advice on her reactions, her thought processes and also on how I can better discuss these types of things with her.
So, what is up with my bride? Besides the long list of the obvious.
Thanks in advance for your thoughts.