Here comes the ...... BUT
Why is is that so many of the stories in our community and other Step related communities start something along the lines of...."I really love my (Fill in the blank), he/she is my soul mate, amazing, etc......... BUT.... their children are toxic/illbehaved/whiney/etc... and I can't stand the little dears/damned kids."
Why can't people who claim to be adults see that the issue is not the toxic spawn but the spawning morons who create, raise, facilitate, enable, instigate, and tollerate this crap from their irritating crotch nuggets?
How can so many who are engaging in some level of blended family relationship not see that it is their "soul mate" that is at least equitably responsible for the crap that churns in the blended family adventure?
Yes, the toxic spawn are a huge PITA but the kids are not the root cause of the issues we struggle with as Sparents. Our own partners are often at the least equally the root cause of the increadible crap.
Why is it that Sparents not only tolerate it but often we justify it and make excuses for our own partners who are THE problem? Not only do we often seem to not recognize that our own partners are THE problem we often even help our partners perpetuate the crap rather than jerking a knot in our own tails and the tails of our partners to confront and destroy the crap. All because we "love" our partners. Often we are our own worst enemy.
Just a question. Nothing new in Rags world just some thoughts from reading recent posts.