This was DH's weekend with SS.
We started out like we always do, BM text DH to tell him that she can't make the 4pm pick up and is looking at 5-5:30. It's an hour drive each way which means we aren't getting home to have dinner until 7ish and we are driving in the dark which we both have a hard time with. On the visitation agreement it actually has a 4pm pick up to accomadate for not driving at night, But for whatever reason she is always later.
I'd rather not make this ride every weekend but DH looks at it as time we get to spend together.
Yesterday SS was supposed to go home. BM text DH around 3 and says that he may have to stay another night becasue she can't get him. I hear DH tell SS that he isn't going home and that we will be having dinner soon. DH then comes to me and says that SS is staying anotther night, isn't that great he says we don't have to drive in the rain. I said Why can't she get him? I was told that she didn't feel well. I said to DH that this causes an issue for me becasue on Monday I was supposed to go into the office to print out some things and run some letters for mailings. I was told that he couldn't stay home becasue he is finishing a job and needed to get paid. I get that you need to get paid but I am working from home and am expected to do my job from 8:30-4 each day. I am not happy all that I now have to rearrange my work schedule becasue BM had a tummy ache and he didn't have the balls to tell her that SS staying an additional night didn't work for us. He never does tell her.
I feel like becasue I am working from home they both look at me as a babysitter. SS was with us all summer and I was able to work around that becasue I knew he was with us but this random unexpected change is a problem and when I explained that to DH he said I guess you will have to go in another day. It isn't that simple but why would I expect him to understand. He actually questioned why I had to all of the sudden go to the office to do something like it was a lie and I had something else planned.
DH told me 3 weeks ago to mind my own business in regard to the drop off and picking up of his son becasue I was aking too many questions about why the times kept getting changed. I stopped asking questions and I really don't care, but I am becomming very resentful becasue he seems more concerned about his ex's feeling than his wife's. If he was worried about how I felt he would have told BM that he had to ask if I had any plans but he didn't. So now I have to rearrange my day so that someone is here to watch SS.
Am I being petty ?