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The story of my conception

purpledaisies's picture

First i want to think everyone that has posted on my blogs and let me get all this out. To that I very grateful of it has been a whirl wind to say the least. lol

However I did get to talk to mom and last night. And I have to say everything makes sense now. The story is this:

When mom was 17 she dated my bio dad then she moved and came back a few months later around christmas and they started to date again. Then mom found out bio dad was seeing someone else too so she let him go. a couple of months later she met dad (step dad). A few weeks after that they got married a few weeks later mom found out she was preggo with me. Only thing was she was 3 months along so dad (step dad) knew I wasnt his. It almost caused a divorce.

Apparently dad (step dad) thought mom trapped him. Mom said she spent months trying convince him she didn't and didn't know she was preggo when they married. Hence the treatment of me that I ruined her life.

But I did get his name and from what mom said he is a nice man and had a boy when she saw him when I was about 3. So that means I have a brother about the same age. I have been searching since lat night and I am pretty sure I found him. He only lives a few towns over and he has no idea I exist.

I am pissed that she didn't tell him which he had the right to know he had a daughter and that she didn't tell me either. And w both missed out on almost 40 years. Just b/c mom wanted to save face!!! Sad

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Flipchip2013's picture

Wow, I'm glad you've gotten some information.

First, your dad is your dad. That man has been there for 40 years. He's your dad.

Second, as much as it sucks, try not to blame your mom too much. She sounds like she was a pretty troubled teenager... pregnant at 17, then married a man she knew for a few weeks (!!!) and then found out she was pregnant. Then her brand new husband, whom she had barely known a couple of months, threatened to leave her.

Wow, that's a lot for a 17 year old.

I hope you find the answers you're looking for.

purpledaisies's picture

Yes I know it was a lot for her to deal with. I was very surprised to say the least that mom was so calm last night and told me everything. She must be taking her meds. lol No really I that my brother told her that she had to tell me everything or risk losing me.

My dad is my daddy he is my rock always has been if it wasn't for him mom and I woulds have killed each other long ago. lol We have personalities that clash big time.

I do know my dad is my dad and wont change. I am 39 as of this coming tues and I get all this. i just need to deal with one thing at a time.

purpledaisies's picture

Fighting I would rather be the one to tell him. Besides my mom will not do that I know her all too well. But thanks anyway. I do understand where you are coming from though.

purpledaisies's picture

I just called a # I got from 411 and the lady knows him but it wasnt his # she took my info and said she will contact him and let him know. I'm shaking like a leaf right now. OMG wow I hope she calls back to say yes or no. She seemed nice.