I'm trying to udnerstand this?

I don't understand why in the world that kids get away with the crap they get away with.

In one blog I noticed that the SD got to choose what radio station they were listening too when it is the SM car! I mean she is a CHILD! I understand every once in while as treat but every time!?

that is just an example. I think we are giving our kids and especially our skids WAY too much chooses and power in our lives. When they get to be adults they can do what they choose but while they are living with me that is not going to happen!

My dd tries to do what she wants when she wants and tries to get what she wants and her way. ALL kids do this but we are the adults and have the RIGHT to say NO! it is more our obligation to say NO to the kids and not give in to their every whim even if it is as little as hear their radio station every time they get in the car. It gets to the point that the kids EXPECT the adults to do what they say when they say.

We as parents need to teach them that the world doesn't revolved around their little butts. I am including my kids in this as well.

I guess I'm not understand this concept that kids should have any power or choices. beyond a few things that aren't that important, I'm not talking about if they should choose what they can wear for the day or that they don't get to pick every once in while what to have for dinner or something like that. I'm talking about EVERY DAY and EVERYTHING!

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My OSS got to choose when he

My OSS got to choose when he came home, whether to visit his father (he had a car), who he visited with from the age of 15. His mother allowed him to learn his own 'life lessons'.

Those 'life lessons' have earned him a bed in jail for a few weeks.

THAT is what I'm talking

THAT is what I'm talking about! right there! WHY do we think it is a good thing to LET our CHILDREN choose what they want to do?

I absolutly LOVE to tell my

I absolutly LOVE to tell my SS3 and SD4 NO! Actually, nothing makes me happier! They are with us full time since June until Feb (BM cant get her life together, and lives across the country) and while they are in MY house, they will abide by MY rules. I truly love nothing more then the word no. And I am military, and when I say no, I MEAN no.

Their BM lets them get away with MURDER, so I figure, the times that they are with me, I will attempt to instill as much of my wisdom as I can, and part of that wisdom, is the realization that NOTHING is going to be handed to them later on in life, and that they do not always win, and life is not made up of rainbows and princesses.

When they ask me why (or why not), I tell them that I am raising them to be contributing members of society... granted, they do not know what that means, but it makes ME feel better HAHA!

I actually used your advice a

I actually used your advice a few times. We all climbed into the car once and SD yells from the backseat to please turn on the radio, onto her channel and turn it up.

I said... No... we are not listening to the radio right now... I have a headache... let's just quietly visit. She was livid... but too bad.

I've also had her ask us to TURN UP the radio... and please not TALK this is her favorite song, and so is the next song, and the next....

In DH's car... we cannot adjust the volume to just the back seat. We have to have it blaring in the front in order for her to like it enough in the back.

So... we put a halt to it. She now uses her IPOD and plugs her ears and ignores us.

Its so nice................

Vastepmom, that is so much

Vastepmom, that is so much better. Why have an ipod if she isn't using it? All it was was to annoy the crap out of you and assert her power! good luck and good for you for standing up.

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