So make the weekend ABOUT you....maybe suggest that the skids and dh bake YOU a cake, clean the house for YOU or if nothing else, plan an girls night out for just YOU ...rent a movie that YOU want, order YOUR favorite pizza, YOUR favorite pop

MAKE it about you this time. and settle for no less

Yes, I have an open door here to an exclusive VIP resort club.

Who is treating whom like a "guest?"

XBF's oldest turns 19 the day before my birthday. It's HER birthday weekend, not mine. She has him granting all her wishes for a weekend away with several of her cohorts and fellow shoplifters for an all inclusive celebration of the birth of her most perfectness.

I was offered dinner out Sunday evening when he was done with all that.

Gee, XBF. Wonder where the X comes in! No, I'm not bitter. Much. I am better off now. Won't be stressing on that one anymore.

Nice of him to consider you, eh? How thoughtful. Perhaps the others can go on a shoplifting spree for the birthday activity. 19, not 9...

Well, if we were still together I was going to get her a gift card to the store she got busted in. }:) }:)

Kohl's of all things! Why not just steal from a thrift store? And he didn't even so much as take her cell phone away.

i think that it is selfish of him not to acknowledge ur bday my bd would have done the same thing. i read previous comments and yeah ok if u can find a babysitter fine but if u are like me not possible because we have no family or friends who are available to do that and paying for it is out of the ? bc of cs payments and other expenses they can skip one weekend.

How about, "Food For Freaks", I mean " Food For Less"?

hahaha

A thrift store would have been the smart approach although it does not sound like you are dealing with a rocket scientist.

Happy Birthday poisonivy!

No you are not selfish. Stop beating yourself up because you and your Birthday to be about you!! How about telling the hubby, I know you have the kids this weekend, let's plan something next weekend, I would really like to do something special for my BD?

If he is smart he will jump on it.

Hell, I'd look at it this way... it's your birthday, you are going to have the skids, so do something fun that they can be included in and then next weekend, have your romantic dinner... that way you can turn it into your birth-month! I'm all for stretching out the celebrations!!

If they were your BK- what would you do? would you stay at home and include them or get a babysitter and go out for a night? Or both!- do something during the day with them one day and then go out the next night just you and DH. They shouldn't receive special treatment just because you didn't birth them. You should be just as important to him- maybe say that to him in advance-- in a nice way of course!

here's what i do, the weekend with no kids, before or after my bday i do something with JUST hubby and i. the weekend before or after WITH the kids, we do something with kids included, then I TOO get 2 bday parties, I TOO get what I WANT and EVERYONE feels included. (just like the kids celebrating twice, i get that chance too)

i do this for both me AND my dh (two weekends to celebrate) but of course due to money, we'll do the expensive part (going out or what ever) when i choose to do it, the other night, we'll throw a cake together, let ME pick the pizza and icecream/popcorn flavors, pick the movie and go from there

Go out with friends. Have fun!!! Act like it doesn't bother you that DH wasn't a part of it. Maybe next time he WILL get a sitter. I went through years of that and don't know how I did it. My birthday always turned into SS's celebration and the child lived with us.

HAPPY BDAY PI!!

I am reminded of about 8 years ago, my DH traded weekends with BM, because of my birthday. He did not tell her that was the reason.

The night of my bday, a bunch of us met at his house to go out dancing and dinner. One of BM’s friends ended up coming by to get some money from her boyfriend who was going with us and then she was going to BM’s house. This was totally random. None of us knew the other were friends. Lol

Well about 30 minutes after that girl left to go to BM’s, BM called DH and wanted to know why he had not picked up his son yet? DH reminded her that they traded weekends and she acted stupid. Even though we had email. She told DH that SS was out in the driveway crying because DH did not come to pick him up. So plans were cancelled and I should have run right then!! Jk. I was amazed BUT it backed my belief that there is no reason to marry this man until BM and SS are far away.

I'm going to run into this sometime too as my bday is at the beginning of the mth and dh's visitation is 1,3,5 weekends. In my case, I would have a sitter. But I also have 3 bios and thy ALL would be at the sitter. I think it's good for skids to see that dh has a healthy, loving relationship with his wife and that he cares enough to still make her feel special. Kids learn how to be a spouse/parent by the examples their parents give. What better way to show skids how to be a good spouse? Just my opinion. If a babysitter isn't possible then I'd make alternate plans to not be around skids if that is what you prefer- go out with friends, make dh stay away from the house while you have 'you' time, have dh give you a day at the spa.

Happy Birthday mine's this weekend too. Wish you didn't have to have the skids

We had SD10 for my birthday also. Honestly, it's been 10 years of this nonsense so I don't particularly care anymore. DH bought me flowers, Skids gave me birthday cards and then DH, SD10 and I went for a nice seafood dinner. I didn't really mind that she was there. Like I said, I'm kinda used to it already so it's like WHATEVER.

I don't really care about my birthday to be honest. I don't like attention drawn to it. I was in Disney world with DH and skids on my 30th. DH is sweet though. Got a babysitter and we went out to the park alone for the night. DH makes me feel special every day though. He needs to teach a class to all men out there!