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OT vent.....need to get this out so i dont say something ill regret.

PeanutandSons's picture

Bs1 had his birthday party last Saturday. We flew up to home state so my family could be there. I of coarse invited my sister and her boyfriend. We aren't on the best terms, but we are civil when we see each other.

She never rsvped for his party and just told my mom shed try to make it. OK fine. Her and bf did show up after all. She didn't say one word to me the entire party. I didn't push it, other than saying hey thanks for coming I just let her be. She brought nothing for bs1....no present, no card. She also hasn't done anything for bs4s birthday since his 1st birthday party.

Now, I don't care about the gift perse.... But who comes to a childs birthday party empty handed? I truly believe in "its the thought that counts".. And she clearly doesnt think much of my kids.

Well today she posted picture of the party.....labeled the album Bs1's first birthday. There was not a single picture of bs1. Not one. There were no pictures of the party (cake, decorations, guest) There were a few couples shots she had taken of her and bf, one of her and bs4, one of bs4 and our mom and one of her bf and our mom.

Does that all seem as weird to you all as it does to me?!?

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hereiam's picture

Why did she even bother showing up? I would stay home before I would go to a child's bday party empty handed.

PeanutandSons's picture

My guess would be to keep up appearances with our mom. My mom was writing down who got him what for the thank you cards, but I don't know if she noticed that there was nothing from my sister.

She's extremely passive aggressive and condescending....which is why we don't get along well. I called her on her birthday to wish her a good day and had all the kids talk to her....but then two weeks later she couldn't be bothered to call bs4 on his birthday. Then she totally blows off bs1 at his own party.

Its just total crap. She's been like this ever since we were kids.....she's never grown out of this childish crap.

3LittleDragonflies's picture

She seriously couldn't stop at Walmart and pick up a $5 onesie? What a lame-o.
And yeah, pictures seem weird... Seriously NONE of the birthday boy?! Why even post the album?

PeanutandSons's picture

My guess is that it was all on purpose. Her and her bf make a ton of money (like over 75 a year each) so its not the cost of the gift that prevented her from doing something. She just chose not to.

And its not even about the gift....I don't care about the gift itself.... Its the motivation behind not getting one that bothers me.

RedWingsFan's picture

How old is sister? She sounds young. Seems like she's making BS1's birthday party all about her and her boyfriend and the other family members. Seems weird to exclude the actual person the party was held for though!

Do you feel comfortable asking her why she posted pictures of everyone BUT the birthday boy?

PeanutandSons's picture

She's older than me....she's 32.

I am trying to avoid posting anything because it will just start more shit. That's why I am venting here.....to keep myself from posting something on her album about how she didn't even bother to take a single picture of the birthday boy.

I really try my best to be the bigger person and avoid the drama....but my mama bear claws come out when I feel my babies are being messed with.

qtpie013178's picture

Wow, she resents you a lot. That behavior is ridiculous and spiteful. I would just avoid her. Try to keep her poison away from your kid.