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"What did YOU do??"

overworkedmom's picture

FDH is back to working late nights this week. That means that he is not getting home until around 9 pm after all 3 kids are in bed and (hopefully) asleep. For the past 2 nights FSS6 has been acting out.

Yesterday was a bad day for him all around. He had managed to get smiley face behavior reports all month (a record for him!) and then yesterday got in trouble for throwing things and not stopping when told to. Then at Jui Jitsu class he was kicked out for the last 15 min for not listening. After we got home and had dinner I made cookies, as soon as I set them out for the kids he kicks my son. I send FSS to his room for a time out. In there he throws a raging fit and breaks his brand new baseball trophy (he hasn't even had it a week). I tell him to: "get in bed, we don't throw fits like babies, I love you, good night".

I hate doing it to him but I had to tell FDH when he got home about the behavior. I hate that I feel like a kid tattling and I know he doesn't want to hear BS after working 15-16 hours straight. BUT he needs to know what his kid is doing. What is his response to this madness that I dealt with yesterday? "what did you do?" Like I was the reason this all happened! All I could do was let me jaw hit the floor and say "excuse me??"! I told him I know he has a cold and not sleeping well, but he has to get his temper under control. But I don't get how its on me that his son is acting out because, lets face it, it is what he does when FDH works late!

OHHH!!! and to put the cherry on the cake the incubator called!! Yes, she got out of jail. She wants to see FSS this weekend. SERIOUSLY! She is knocked up and is going to have to explain to a 6 year old why she is having a baby and "supposedly" giving it up for adoption . BUT i am proud of FDH for telling her that if she wants to see FSS then she has to honestly tell him where she has been and why she hasn't even called in 5 months. If they are going to have any kind of relationship it is going to be an honest one.

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overworkedmom's picture

No, it was a what did you do to cause the behavior... he can be an idiot. He came around when I told him FSS does this every time you work late for more than one night in a row.

overworkedmom's picture

He owns his own company and yes it is essential that he works the hours that he is. We both wish it could be different but he has to do what he has to in order to keep things going.

overworkedmom's picture

No, don't I wish!! He is a contractor and on sites... That would be lovely though.