JUST as I posted last night he came home.

And we had a little discussion about how disrespectful it is to run over to her house and take care of HER garbage disposer without being courteous enough to ask me if I mind.

His ex is just mean and unless DH tells her that the garbage disposal REALLY needs replacing (he says it is the same one he installed over 20 yrs ago)and it was co-incidental it started leaking when YSS was using it, she will blame YSS and nag him and make life just nasty for him.

Basically she is looking for any excuse to get him and his brother out of the house. But she won't actually THROW them out because her church friends will think badly of her. Instead of giving them the skills and ability to motivate them to live their own lives (like giving them 18 moths to save up the deposit on an apartment and utilities and giving them furniture etc) she just makes things unpleasant for them and expects them to accquire these skills by osmosis.

I understand why he helped out his son. He was basically saving his arse so there is one less thing for her to nag him about or give her ammunition to make him leave. YSS was actually in quite a panic when he called last night.

That being said, I pointed out to DH whether he would appreciate me running over to my ex's to fix curtains or if the kids messed up a meal and make 'it all better'. He just looked at me. I THEN reminded him that running over to his exes place without even asking me if I minded or if I had other plans (I can ALWAYS make other plans wink wink) was rude and I felt unappreciated and he hurt my feelings.

WHAMO! He apologised and said I was right (again). See, a long time ago he decided he didn't want a long distance relationship and broke my heart. Since we made up and married and I moved here he does ANTHING not to hurt my feelings. If I pull out the 'hurt feelings' card he folds.

Now if I was vindictive I could milk this for all it is worth. But seeing he didn't actually do any repairs but looked at the disposor and say "Yup, it is screwed." and came straight home he is forgiven. I just need to tell YSS NOT to screw up again at his mother's place or he will have me to answer to. And DH knows that I will go and 'indulge my abandonment' at Hobby Lobby.

All is well for now.

PS: Ex was not home at the time when DH went over. If she had been there he would not have gone.