Potty-training a 9-year-old
In the past I have posted about KittyCat (SD9) who has a wetting problem. We share 50/50 every other week with the Wookie. When KittyCat is with the Wookie, she sleeps in Wookie's bed everynight and wears a pull-up. KittyCat has been wearing pull-ups to bed her entire life at the Wookie's house. She has never been properly potty trained. She also has absolutely no shame about wetting the bed or wearing "diapers" as she calls it. She even told the teacher in front of her class that she would have to bring a diaper if she went on an overnight class trip. (that's another story - she's not going on an overnight class trip in the 4th grade - ridiculous.) I was hoping that a little peer pressure and teasing from her classmates would help her along - nope, she doesn't care.
At our house, KittyCat is not allowed to wear diapers. If she wets the bed (which is usually 5 out of 7 nights, she must take the dirty bedclothes downstairs and put them in the washing machine).
We have taken her to the doctor several times, we have worked with her, we've offered rewards, we've been encouraging, we've taken away her allowance - nothing has worked. We have gotten up in the middle of the night to take her to the bathroom, and that did help somewhat, but she was still wetting 3 or 4 nights a week.
DH did not want to punish her as he feels she cannot help it. I finally put my foot down after once again opening my girls' bedroom door in the morning and being assaulted with the humid pee stench that is KittyCat. I really get tired of washing blankets and I don't think it's fair to Starr (BD9) to have to live in a room that constantly smells like that.
I told DH (and he agreed) that from now on, KittyCat would be punished if she wet the bed. If she wet the bed, she would not get to play videogames or play on the computer the next day. Guess what? She didn't wet the bed the remainder of the week. I started that system the second night she was home, so 6 out of 7 nights, she did not wet the bed. Could it be that KittyCat was just being lazy?
My theory - she usually wet sometime within an hour before she had to get up. My thought is that she would wake up, need to go, but then she was too tired or lazy to take herself to the bathroom. At the Wookie's house, it didn't matter. She's wearing a diaper so she can just go and throw it away in the morning. But faced with not being able to play her precious videogames, she started to go on her own.
Yes, (in Stewie Griffin's voice) VICTORY IS MINE!!!!