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O/T Idiotic ex husband about to destroy our holiday plans!!!!!!!!!!Noooooooooooo!!

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Submitted by oncechoosetosmile on Tue, 02/26/2013 - 5:10am

My idiotic ex hb is a highly intelligent scientist who hasn't a lot of social skills ,but a few anger issues and who only started caring more about our three kids since he stopped dating young party girls and finally found a nice grounded lady, who has a two year old little boy.Ex hb is a narcist as well as a chronical liar, let's call him Pinoccio.
Pinoccio had to go to Europe for 5 weeks last year and we had my children with me for that time.Not a big deal since they are with me most of the time.But we have fortnightly kids free weekends that we cherish and use to recharge our batteries.Therefore I told him that for the two child free weekends that we missed we would like to get one weekend and a few weekdays 'back" when we go away to Fiji.Yes and Amen was Pinoccios response to that.Sweet, I thought.
Nothing was booked back then and when we were ready to book something in November I naturally spoke to him first and confirmed that those dates were fine for him and that he remembered his promise. Pinoccio agreed (although you could see his nose grow if you would look thoroughly).No me, though- I believed it is all sorted and we went ahead and booked one week in Fiji at those days we proposed and he agreed to.
Now, since it is only 2 weeks to go, I emailed Pinoccio to make sure he remembered the right dates and then the s...t happened and he told me that there was no way he could take the kids no matter what he said before since he is too"busy" with work. I fell out of the clouds since I even had it in writing that he agreed to it all.He says he doesn't care about what has been said.He even got verbally abusive and told me off for not understanding how important his f....g work would be in contrast to mine ( I am self employed). :jawdrop:
I thought nothing could surprise me about that guy anymore but this really did shock me. He made the promise and agreed to it all and then just said no and expected us to cancel the holiday .
I ended up asking his gf if she even knew about it all and she didn't have a clue but promised she would talk to him.Somehow she now said they will take the kids after all.This is all under the promise we take them another weekend , which is unfair, but I don't see we have the choice.I am shaking and got a huge headache about this mess.
What do you guys do when your ex lets you down like this?

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Submitted by Lalena75 on Tue, 02/26/2013 - 9:59am

I always have back up plans for the kids just in case exh is an ass. He'll take the kids but will complain that he has to get them to school, ds's bus is the same distance from his house as it is from mine and his gf's dd and my dd go to the same high school both can walk and he drives his gf's kid to school so it's stupid.
Praise his gf for helping work this out who cares about fair swap weekends, if you weren't divorced there'd be no kid free weekends without a babysitter anyway, and if you want to get payback don't swap later when he wants to throw it back in his face, heck I'd be all I don't owe you shit I owe gf who actually helped out. If it's that important for you to go, take what you can get to go there.

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Submitted by oncechoosetosmile on Tue, 02/26/2013 - 3:49pm

Thanks girls, I feel less alone now.He is a total f..ktard and thinks he is the greatest father ever.I bet he expects me to be grateful for him agreeing (which he only did because of GF)to what he promised anyway.
In addition this morning they refused to give my daughter who slept here my sons clothes and insist they "stay there".Since years Exhb lost everything we bought for the kids and therefore I send the younger one with cheaper clothes now and keep his nice stuff here.The older one though is taking what he likes and now they are holding on to his stuff as if we ever lost anything they bought!!!!