Right of First Refusal - Question
Who else has this idiotic clause in their CO? DH and I fought for years to keep this out of the CO and the judge agreed, until this last September. What? SD is now 9, will be 10 this summer and now we have to deal with this lunacy?
Anyway, even though we went to court in September, neither BM's attorney or our attorney can agree to exactly what the Judge ruled on so the CO hasn't even been filed. Ludicrous. I haven't pushed the issue because honestly, I don't care. The child is not mine, she doesn't want anything to do with me, she lies constantly about me and my kids and she manipulates DH without even breaking a sweat.
So when DH picked up SD9 for Spring Break this last Friday, BM asked what days she will need to "babysit" SD9. Wtf? Babysit? She's your freaking kid. DH basically was dumbfounded because he was unaware we needed her to babysit and told her he was taking a few days off and the days he was working, SD9 would be with me (I work from home - how lucky for me - implied sarcasm.) Anyway, this has never been an issue before, but since the right of first refusal clause was mentioned, apparently BM thinks that if SD9 isn't with DH, then she has to be with BM. No, sorry you hateful rotten excuse for a human being, that's not how it works. The proposed order that BM's attorney wrote up says that if "DH or his wife procure child care or a babysitter for the parties' minor child, BM shall be the first person to be contacted for child care/babysitting purposes." Really?
So my question to all of you that may have been dealing with this issue is: What is considered childcare/babysitting? Can SD9 not spend some time with her grandma or aunt while we work? Or does that constitute babysitting?