Another Mini Poll for all biomoms....
This is a “theme” that I’ve noticed today so I will pose this question to all the biomoms …please be brutally honest…did you have a “fear” about your ex having children with another woman?
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I can honestly
say no.. not at all. If he wants more children I think he is dumb provided he already has 3 - 2 with me and 1 from his first marriage.. that is only my opinion.
Why the question? (J/C)
think that is a big part of
think that is a big part of the problem skye22 is having with SS and also Candice mentioned that they went through the same thing…then the biomom in Anne 8102’s family told the kids that he’s with his “new family” and lastly, biosupermom mentioned something about “knowing that he and the new GF would want kids and will resent the extra time with my son” so….the thought just crossed my mind, is this a “common” fear?
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I would say in my situation
I would say in my situation YES.
Yes it is
in some cases.. Not all but some.
I guess because I have no feelings for my ex I do not care.
I can tell you that I know for sure if my husband's little thing grew back together and I got pregnant his ex would probably be on the 7th floor.. I know that because I am sure that would be a blow to her.
I am not saying having a baby with him would be horrible but we are trying so hard just to get thru the dady to day issues with kids that adding another one would just like put us in a huge state of shock.. but I can tell you one thing if it ever happened that kid would be raised so differently then his bio's from ex... I think he would be in shock.. LOL..
Nope, wouldn't care, but...
he can't really even handle the two we had together, and he would agree; I don't think he'd have more!
I guess you don't really know how you'd feel 'til he did, but I've never 'feared' it.
It may feel weird, though?
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Absolutely not!
Absolutely not!
I think the difference is the bio's that do have issues with it.....seem to have many other "issues" related to "moving on" with their lives...or letting their X's move on with theirs..
It's just another symtom of what-ever is wrong with them socially/mentally in the first place....
I was thinking
maybe it has nothing to do with them having more children that bothers them. Maybe its the FEAR that their children together may be left out or not as important in the presents of a 'new family'
any thoughts on this ladies....
Quite the contrary for us!
Of course, BM poisons SD with those very words (that she is not as important to Daddy as his "new family" is to him) but what it comes down to is BM's fear of SD loving it so much at our house with her adorable new siblings who she just loves to pieces, that she would want to move in with us and leave BM.
The sickest part of it is, BM is so damn selfish that she DOESN'T WANT SD TO ENJOY OUR FAMILY TIME. She would prefer that we ostracize her from our family so she can have her all to herself. She would rather let her daughter feel the terrible pain of being rejected by her father than actually let her have a loving relationship with us. Very sad.
Skye22, I agree with you on this!
I agree with you on this! When my husband and I got married, even his kids were concerned about whether we would have children together or not. His ex was bothered by this possibility as well. They were concerned about their place in his life.
This really doesn't apply to
This really doesn't apply to me, but I'm answering anyway. When the ex found out that he was marrying me and that I already had a son, she freaked. When he told her that he was adopting my son, she freaked more. When she found out that we were expecting our daughter, she freaked out to the point of filing a lawsuit for more CS for HER children. She complained about him not spending time with his kids with her, but she conveniently forgot the part about her packing them up and moving them several hours away and then gouging him for so much CP that he could only afford gas to come see them once a month. By the time we got together, the financial situation had improved and, after doing the math, discovered that we could afford to have a baby together. But when she found out, she decided that any "extra" money he had should be going to her, not towards us having a baby together. She was shot down in court, by the way, and the support amount was actually reduced by about $500/month. We're celebrating our fifth anniversary in a couple of weeks and to this day she is STILL badmouthing me and telling the kids that their dad's "new" family is more important. So yes, I think the biomom in this case felt threatened.
~ Anne ~
Oh, wait! Maybe it does apply to me! My ex-husband did remarry and I know he has three stepsons. Do I feel threatened? Heck, no! I totally forgot about it until I was getting ready to hit the POST COMMENT button!