BM stopped helping out financially long ago.
Just ranting as I process this. I just found out last night that BM has stopped making payments to DH for skid expenses for a long time. DH couldn't tell me exactly how long, but she stopped paying him back for over half a year to up to a year ago. DH was trying to keep it from me, but SD17 told me what was going on and I confronted DH about it.
For background, DH pays for almost all the skids expenses and BM pays him back for it. It's not a specific amount each month, it's based on how much each spend on the skids. Since, DH spends a lot more, BM always owes him money. But, it's better that way. DH is better at being money conscious, so he is not racking up unnecessary expenses on their common expenses. Both are getting the best deal out of DH making the initial payments and BM paying him back. I knew that she was behind by $1k, but I was under the assumption that she was making regular payments and was trying to catch up. She has a good job, so it's not like she's unemployed. But, she always claims she is having financial troubles, which I don't get at all, since I can adjust to live within my means.
I found out that the amount has risen to over $4k. DH told me that he contacts her regularly about paying him (almost every week) and she has been saying that she is trying to sell her second car, but for various reasons, which I won't get into, she has been unable to sell it. So, basically, she's waiting to pay him back in a lump sum, however, she's been talking about selling this car for over half a year, so I'm skeptical that DH will ever see the money. But, it drives me nuts that she is not paying the ongoing expenses either. This amount just keeps rising and she's doing nothing on a regular basis to lower it!
I'm livid about the whole thing. I'm generally a sympathetic person, but I'm so sick of this. Sorry, just needed to get this off my chest. I know that I should just be mad at BM for being useless and DH for keeping it from me, but things like this make me resent the skids and want them to just hurry up, grow up, and get out the h*ll out of my house.