Dear Valued Users,
It's with a heavy heart that we announce the permanent closure of StepTalk.org on August 31st, 2025.
This decision wasn't an easy one. For over twenty years, StepTalk has been a source of support for stepparents around the world! However, over the years, the costs associated with maintaining and upgrading the site to remain secure, meet current standards and maintain availability have become unsustainable.
We are incredibly grateful for your support, contributions and the community you've helped us build. Your engagement has made StepTalk.org a special place and we cherish the memories and connections made here.
We would especially like to thank Aniki for volunteering to be a moderator and for caring so much.
Thank you for being a part of our journey and we wish you all the best.
Sincerely,
Dawn and The StepTalk Team
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I am sorry that you are
I am sorry that you are feeling so trapped.I have been there so many times. DH needs to value your opinion more.From what I have seen you have been doing your best to help and all he does is give you grief.Have you ever been to a couples councelor? I think that DH has the wrong idea about where you are coming from and is not being very sympathetic to what you go through. It is hard for bio parents to understand what step parents go through.My heart goes out to you. I hope that things improve for you. ((((HUGS))))
It is better to be the hammer than the anvil.
Emily Dickinson
SM's are not babysitters
I have learned thru the years that any discussion about SK's will result in a fight. However, there is a choice to stick around & deal with all the issues. I go out & enjoy myself with friends & do fun things instead of babysitting or worrying about it.
Believe me they dont worry about us SM's.
I agree with both of you!
I've tried couple's counseling with him -- he's ALL FOR changing me, but God forbid he make any changes. He actually got the counselor so angry that he ended the session and told him DH that he needed to be willing to meet me in the middle. He also added, "you're lucky you have a wife who's so concerned about your children, most women wouldn't touch this situation with a 10 foot pole!" I went back to him by myself and he said that he was sorry I found myself in such a frustrating situation.
The funny thing is, that in the beginning this counselor thought I was evil, controlling and manipulative -- you could tell, but I just waited and thought, you'll see...and sure enough he did!
As for sticking around -- I've cut that too! I go out and enjoy myself the way I used to before we were married. I was fuming one night and remembered something my grandfather told me..."you can only be used and taken advantage of if you allow yourself to be." It's one thing to help, to be a partner to my husband, but I'll be darned if I'm going to be a babysitter and a kicking post to these children.
My dog and I go out and have fun and they sit at home. A few more weekends of this and I think he may get the point. And the next time he has visitation I'm going out of town
This old gal is taking her life back! I'm tired of being everyone's go to gal. I'm back in church, I've volunteered for a few things, and if that mean he has to watch them by himself, to bad so sad. I'm going to do things I enjoy again!