I'm Done -- Finished -- I Quit!
I've had it -- I see no reason to work on this horrid marriage one more day!
Here are my last three entries in the log I keep on him...
June 12, 2009
I was furious tonight. DH got home from his training and was so mean to the puppy! She had just had surgery on the 8th and was still in her recovery period and yet he was still mean to her. She came up to greet him when he sat down, she had missed him, but shame on her, she got some water on him from where she had taken a drink. He got so mad at her that he kicked in the side and she went clear across the room. Thank heavens when she fell she landed on her bed. What kind of a creep kicks a puppy, especially after she had surgery 4 days before!
June 14, 2009
Well not only did DH not care enough to do anything for our anniversary, but he decided to kick the dog again. She stepped on his toe and he freaked out, kicked her again, this time she flew back and stepped on a sharp point of her bone and began to limp for about 15 minutes. He’s such a creep!
June 15, 2009
I feel like a total and complete moron. I thought DH had tried to kill himself, but nope, he was drunk again. He had already downed 3 cups of Vodka in the time that I was visiting my friend. When I came home he was making no sense and he lied to me at least 5 times when I asked what he had taken or what he had drank he kept saying nothing. He was talking about people sitting on top of the television warning him to be careful of me. I found an empty bottle of Tylenol by the bed, so who knows how much of that he’d taken! So I called his mother, she talked to him and she was worried too, so we agreed that it would be best to call the ambulance. After hearing me on the phone he opened the night stand and showed me the almost empty 750 ml bottle of Vodka that he had drank. I immediately poured the rest of it out – there was only ½ cup left – maybe a little less. So they sent the police, they asked if we had been fighting, I explained that no, I had been gone and at a friend’s house. That when I returned I was afraid there was something seriously wrong. They asked if I had been drinking, I said no…how embarrassing! The police think I’m total white trash – you could just tell.
I just want a good paying job so that I can boot his drunk butt out of my house. The dog and I will be safe and not have to worry about all his crap then!
BTW -- all of this was after I had given him another chance after he hit me in Jan! There are other entries of him being drunk, but didn't want to bore everyone with it.
You know I'm relieved that as soon as I find a job that pays all my bills that I can be rid of all the nuts! I am well educated so something will eventually come along. I don't deserve this kind of treatment. Even my MIL said she wouldn't blame me if I left him!
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He
is a grade a asshole!
I'm glad you've decided to leave his sorry ass. That's pathetic -- you're well rid of him.
Good for you!
Best,
BB
- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)
Hopefully you are for real...
He sounds like a mean human, that doesn't appreciate you...
He hit you in january? good lord, girl.. just leave this loser...
I really hope you and the puppy can be save...
Take care...
sorry you have to go through this...
~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's
Run for the hills
If he would abuse an innocent puppy he's likely to do even worse damage to a human GET OUT NOW!
If
If he beats you up the cops wont do anything but if you tell them he is abusing animals they will lock him up and throw away the key.. I would pity the person that kicked my animal when I got done with them. If you want to work sign up with all the temp agencies because with the economy being so bad sometimes that is the only way to get a job. I have been hired permanently from temp jobs before.
I wanted to pulverise him
Even though the cops didn't do a thing in January when I called them, I knew it would be my luck that if I did so much as shove him for kicking my poor puppy that they'd probably put me in jail and throw away the key!
I don't blame you
It sounds like he has a drinking problem - but if he ever kicked my PUPPY, a baby too, that is just too much!!! He has got to go. Hugs honey (((((((((((SM08)))))))))))))
"It's funny how dogs and cats know the inside of folks better than other folks do, isn't it?"
- Eleanor H. Porter (1868 - 1920), 'Pollyanna', 1912
There's NO question about it!
The minute I can pay my bills I'm gone! The house, the cars, EVERYTHING is in my name only! I found out that this jerk maxed out my credit cards, I furious! Of course this morning was I'm sorry, I'm sorry, and blah blah blah. I told him to save it! I told him I no longer trust nor believe ANYTHING he tells me.
He's a loser, the BM is a loser, and I'm sure the skids will follow in their foot steps. HOWEVER, I refuse to let this Jerry Springer bunch drag me to their level!
He put on a GREAT show though! Even my father didn't pick up on ANYTHING (he's a retired police officer)! Of course he's livid now and just wants me out! But they don't have the money to help me financially, so Today is going to look for temp work...thanks for the suggestion Sparky!
Drunken abusers should be shot and pissed on.
Enough said.
Maybe you can get a roomate
to help with the bills and such. When i read he hit you I cringed, and when I read he hit your poor puppy I double cringed. men like these are not worth it.
My H never hit me but the emotional abuse he put me through is one for the books.
I know that when you leave a relationship there is a lot of uncertainty but we all have our dignity, be strong and don't let this man take it away.
One can only hope!
Verbal Abuse
Oh the verbal abuse that has been going on is horrible too, but I can tune that out for a short time. I was brought up in a fairly religious family and I have been debating for the past 6 months on whether or not divorce was the right thing to do. I love the skids and really wanted to protect them plus I kept hoping he was going to get it all together.
Last night was the straw that broke the camel's back. I don't see how God can send me to hell when I divorce him...I'm already living there!
I was
where you are. Divorce is such a strong word and I also debated it for a while. If you are religious look at it this way: The ONE UP THERE wants your happiness. Sometimes we don't know what our happienss is and THE ONE UP THERE sends us all of these signs to get away from people or situations in our life, that is HIS way of helping us.
I also grew up religious and Catholic, My mom being one of those ladies who goes to church every week 2-3 times per week. And guess who has been the most supportive person for me during this divorce? MY MOM.
One can only hope!
Sounds like...
That sounds like my best friend's mother. She has been wonderful to me and I truly believe her when she says she prays for me. Knowing that and how my parents are behind me gives me strength to go forward.
Oh no he kicked the dog!!
He has to go!! No one will get away with that! You need to think if he kicked the dog where is his foot gonna go next??
"And this too shall pass..."
Sm2008
My EXH was extremely abusive on me untill the final straw that he choke me and threw me against the wall, grabbed me by both arms and kept slamming me against the wall (All while I was pregnant with BD). I being the coward I was didn't do anything untill..... He stayed packing his stuff to leave and was taking everything out of my house food, pictures of MY SON (not his BS). The longer he stood in my face the more strength I grew. I had grabbed the phone (a cordless with a long antenna) and beat the living shit out of him. I couldn't even stop myself, all the abuse was put to a head that night!!! Even now if I see him he says (joking) I still don't own a cordless phone!!
A few months after this (I was afraid, dumb.... YADA) He then cut my dogs (prince) throat. I couldn't prove it as he didn't live with me but it happened outside and my dog was 10 and he was SO JEALOUS of him saying I loved my dog more then him!! My dog lived and I pawned my wedding set to pay for the vet bills of sewing his throat 44 stitches!
PLEASE RUN, DO WHATEVER you have to do... If he can kick a poor innocent puppy he WILL really hurt you!
I have 3 dogs all of which DH loves also, but DH knows my dogs are my fur kids. And last year when my prince died he was as heart broken as I was....And he would never hurt my dogs or me!!! That I know for sure
I am praying for you!! Ask for the strength and help to leave before it is to late!!!