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newstepmom2008's picture

Well now I'm told I'm the cause of all his depression, I'm the reason he drinks, he was fine before I came along and blah blah blah. I told him if that's the case than as soon as I get full time job he's free to leave. Well he didn't want that.

The whole thing is revolting to me!

I let him have it (verbally of course). I told him he needs to be a man, take responsibility for his own problems and quit blaming everything on everyone else in his life.

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Sasha's picture

That is complete and utter bullsh*t and for this he deserves a sound beating with a clue bat. The day my H blames ME for his drinking and acting like an a$$hat is the day I kick his butt to the curb. Your H can't have it both ways. He can't blame you for all his woes then refuse to leave. He needs to take ownership for his own shortcomings instead of taking the easy way by blaming someone else.

What a buttmunch!

BMJen's picture

~All you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust~

Selkie's picture

Why are you still with this asshole? Better you being the cause of his depression than him being the cause of your broken collar bone. This blaming shit is typical abuser behaviour. Leave him while you still have anger as your motivator and energy source.

newstepmom2008's picture

I'm still trying to get a job.

Stick's picture

With all due respect, can I ask Why?

Why do you listen to his crap?

Why do you even give him the option of as soon as YOU get a job, he's out?

Why do you do this to yourself?

Why aren't you scared for your own safety and that of your poor little puppy?

Why do you need him in your life?

Why would you stay with this man for even another minute?

smnikki's picture

but then he sobers up and remembers how truly crappy his life was before me, and how all his family was only there for him so long as they could run his life. fh has stopped drinking and we are going to counseling. does you dh apologize the next day too?