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newbiemommy's picture

It has come to the point that a hate this manipulative, vile, disgusting little sh*t. I can't stand to be in the same room as her. It makes me gag when she kisses her dad on the mouth, that same mouth he kisses me with. I've tried everything. It's been 2 long years and I can't imagine another day with this little witch living in my house. I've hit my limit and I can feel myself reaching my breaking point. She disrespects me, my house, my stuff, my pets, my boyfriend(her dad) and I'm just sick to my stomach over it. I wish her mom would just take her back. How f'd up is this, her mom created so much of a monster even she can't stand her, her grandma's won't even babysit. I'm so tired.
I don't want my sweet daughter ending up anything like her. My mom keeps telling me if I raise my daughter around her she will end up acting/talking like her. Has anyone raised their children around horrible steps?? This is honestly to the point that I'm staying to question my relationship.

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Ommy's picture

I wouldnt kiss my SO if he kissed his girls on the lips. That is for a couples only.

Also if you talk to your daughter and explain to her why she is held to a higher standard, and explain that with the path SD is on
SD is going to have a much hard life and you want more for your daughter she will eventually understand.

bi's picture

i agree with this 100%. sd19 had horrible habits and lack of manners and her general personality just sucked. having her eowe was more than enough, the year she lived here was awful. i did have talks privately with bd17 about how i knew things seemed unfair because bd had chores and rules and sd didn't, and i told her why she has chores and rules and how it was actually bad for sd that she didn't, and bd seemed to understand.

sd tried to get bd to do the same kind of crap she did all the time, like fake sick to skip school, and bd just wouldn't play her game. she is nothing like sd. my brother and i are complete opposites and we are blood. your mom isn't giving your influence over your dd enough credit, and she's giving sd's influence way too much credit.

newbiemommy's picture

She is about to turn 11. And she is VERY manipulative and she basically makes it clear SHE is the boss. She still pees on herself. She has gone a month without peeing herself or the bed when she was betting her way but lately she pees every night and sometimes during the day. Several dr visits and they concluded its a control issue, but daddy just can't accept that"baby" is anything but naive and perfect.

dispiritedstepmom2011's picture

i am raising bd5 with horrible sd13...and unfourtunatly, i did not listen when others told me that even if i raise bd5 'right' she will still pick up the shit sd throws around here. bd5 has some disabilities, and her cognitive ability is behind that of the average 5yr old. basically she doesnt understand when things are explained to her, such as 'we do NOT slam doors' 'we do NOT say this or that'. she sees this and hears this daily. but sd's behavior is what she mimicks no matter how much i 'try' to keep the girls apart.

the last few days bd5's behavior has been unacceptable. very mirror to sd's. bf and i re going to have a talk tonight, because i am concerned for bd5's progress. i really dnt want to be the one to relocate with bd5, i really beleive sd should go live with her mother fulltime and we get eow...to which bd5 and i wont be home.

hang in there.

bellflower's picture

Oh how I feel your pain! I HATE my SS11 too! He is so disrespectful and such a liar. He is a slob and inappropriate! I wish he would just stay with his BM all the time, but she too needs her time off from him. She has him on 4 types of meds and it only makes him worse. Last time he was he here glared at me while grinding his knife into his steak. He is that kid who will hurt someone or something one day. I just hope it isnt me or my BD's.
How does your BF respond to her disrespect? My husband usually gives into his son. I now refuse to spend anytime with my SS unless my husband is present. He also isnt allowed to spend time with our daughters unless he is present. It sucks and I just wish we could move out of state to avoid this kid forever!
As for raising your child around her. I praise the ways my BD12 is different from him without saying I am so glad you are not like him. Like, I so appreciate your honesty even when you might get in trouble or I think it is wonderful how you picked up your clothes after you took a shower!
You are not alone! Hang in there!

newbiemommy's picture

By the way all, she is with us full time. She only sees mom when BM feels like having her little play thing around for a few hours. My SO is trying but he gets so worn out fighting her every second of the day, plus the more he fights her the worse she gets so he frequently falls into ignoring behavior. My sweet baby is just 10 months. I'm just terrified of the influence shes going to get.