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So I'm a "sarcastic bitch" eh? (bad words...sorry in advance)

mylife7's picture

I dared to ask BM for ss8s game shorts back prior to his game. Oh my hell! You would have thought I asked her to kiss my bare ass. 14 texts. 14 bullshit, delusional, rambling and never coming to a point texts! I guess five pairs of shorts, four pairs of soccer socks, two pairs of shin guards, three pairs of bball shoes, tball gear, wrestling gear and five sling bags to transfer it, all of which has vanished to her house need not be mentioned. Nevermind the fees involved per sport. Nevermind she "doesn't feel it to be" her obligation to bring him to games on "her time". Too bad most games are on weekends when she has him! No skin off her big, welfare/ section 8 fraud, her career felon man living with her working under the table fat ass huh? We don't have $25 extra right now to replace them. Embarrassing, but true. DH after back surgery has returned to school. I'm a stay at home limited to part time work. Two games left and she refuses to give a stupid pair of fucking shorts back? I'm so sick of her shit. Why do I have to be so well behaved? I'm tired of being nice. I'm pissed at the world because Bms get away with so much. I'm fucking mad as hell that every time she sends the police to our home (The claims? I'm abusing my kids, DH abuses me, we're on drugs, I spat on her, I've harrassed her, DH stalked her, we deal drugs, etc, etc, bullshit, bullshit bullshit), they treat me like I have done something wrong! I'm fucking done! My older kids shouldn't have the burden (and it's become a routine) to take the younger kids upstairs in an attempt to shield them from whats going on. Our landlord gets an email from the pd site every time they respond to our address, meaning we get a call and risk being evicted. There's a "no cause" law in my state. One would think after multipule.....meaning EVERYTHING she has accused us with was proven to be crap, law enforcement would put a note in saying "this bitch be crazy, go about your buisness." One would think she would be charged with misuse of some sort of something. I feel so bad for being so scrambled and I feel guilty for being so brash but I'm so fucking angry at her all the freaking time! There is never a time to rest. There is always, ALWAYS something with her! I feel like the deck is stacked against us. When ss8 came to live with us full time (4/08) I thought things would get better eventually and it has not. When is enough enough? Am I stupid or smart for being here still?

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janeyc's picture

Phew I can see why you are so angry I would be too, I think she is punishing you, which is totally unfair, I know what that feels like, but she is also punishing the child, obviously she is too selfish/stupid or just dosn't care about that.

I feel like leaving sometimes too, but how she would love that, I know its hard but don'nt give her the satisfaction, your step children sound very lucky to have someone in their lives that cares about them so much, their lives would be worse without you.

I look forward to the day when my step daughter is old enough to make up her own mind and be listened too.

In answer to your question, no you are not stupid for sticking around, you sound like a strong person who really cares for her step children.

whatwasithinkin's picture

im sorry your starting your Friday like this...I understand believe me I do. I just wish bm's could get their head out of their asses long enough to realize by doing this shit their not hurting us their hurting their kids

mylife7's picture

I know huh? A BM actually admitting a fault would mean that us step parents are not the root of every problem after all right? Oh no no! We can't have THAT lol. Then they may be forced to take accountability. A girl can dream right?

mylife7's picture

Oh lady, we think alike. I have no idea why the police allow this to continue. She is a very manipulative person with many people willing to lie for her. Nine times out of 10, the police come here with an opinion already formed and we have to defend ourselves. The last time she sent the PD to our house, she said I spat on her....from 32 feet away (I measured after the officers left) while she was behind her car door yelling at me while ss8 was getting into her car. The officers had no interest in hearing us. Usually the parting advice is "If you two can't get along, maybe you shouldn't have contact." Tell me how that's supposed to happen when I'm his primary care taker (DH is at school or work or coaching or loaded with homework). She's taken out two restraining orders on us, first one she was too tweeked out to show up when contested, Second one she dropped when we contested it. She's a frequent flier in that office (her ex husband, us, her current husband...wtf?). Nobody does anything! She's been getting away with welfare/ sec8 fraud for 13 years! Her ex husbands cousins brothers sisters whatever worked for dhs at one point so her case is in an office out of our county. She's not held accountable by any state office here and our state has a law of 24 hours notice for a "drop in" and annual inspections. She has plenty of time to cover her tracks and she's a pro at it. She's freakin proud! She's out right gloated with her snotty ass! When I did finally have undisputable documentation (yet another BS restraining order against her then BF in her own writting), she did a fast track wedding (the only way a felon can be added to her housing). I'm the current wife of her ex boyfriend, and I'm treated like it. Call his Po? Check...nothing! How does THAT work? It's like her shit smells like rainbows and the whole worlds on her side. When DH first started to process to get custody of ss8, his parents, HIS parents funded her side! Why? Because I dared to tell his father off after his mom assulted me (whole other drama that seems too bazzar to be true. They are now refered to as his ex family). Knowing at the time she was using. Knowing what a shitty parent she is. All because I bruised his ego. I have no freakin clue how she gets away with all this, but I'm about done. 24 hours doesn't go by without SOMETHING! People have limits man and I'm ready to move away from her ass....my family (DH and ss8 included) deserves better. Smile

worried_stepmother's picture

Feel your pain. BM here is a...well SPAWN of Satan. She has Full custody but has turned SS6 against DH,Me,BS2, and now even BD who is ONLY 8 months old! SS6 has told us several times in the past month that he doesn't love us and doesn't want to be here (however nothing has changed here except additions and he was NEVER like that before) all because BM has ran her mouth at DH in front of SS saying he doesn't care about SS and if it was BS or BD he would do anything for them (which is not 100% true and we tell SS that cause we make things equal as possible with all the kids). I totally agree with SAP though. USE WHAT YOU GOT if your monster BM thinks she can walk all over you she will. Even better do what you can anonymously and then play stupid when she comes to you about it all. Karma....yeah it's a B**** but revenge is ALWAYS sweeter! }:)

mylife7's picture

Thats harsh. I will never understand how a grown adult justifies using a children as a tool. In your case a baby and a toddler as well as your ss. Are you kidding me? Btw, your slinky quote make me smile as BMs lemon shaped ass taunting me at ss8 soccer game today...thank you!

HadEnoughx5's picture

Oh...I sooo hear you!!! The BM, Pink Psycho Bitch (PPB) always has to have chaos and drama. Always causing some problem where ever she goes.My DH has been to court every year since their divorce 8 years ago. Doesn't work and has too much time on her hands.

PPB will never return anything from her home to ours. I think in her mind it's "beneath" her. We too have bought all sorts of equipment for their sports, paid fee's, bought clothes for our home etc. but PPB will never acknowledge DH's contribution to the skids.

When we ask the PPB where is something....she goes absolutely crazy and digs her heals in to not work with DH.

Delilah's picture

I think you need to put in place a plan which prevents ANYTHING going to BM's house.

I dont know your custody arrangement so talking in general, am assuming you have full custody of ss (you mention having this so not sure if its the ss you are talking about in your post)?

We would have to change my ss into clothes he came in from BM's to go back to her, because she would steal our stuff or lie and say she had bought it (nope).

So ss gets changed before he goes to BM's house and he is to come back in the clothes he went in.

I also agree I would be looking into harassment laws and getting legal advice about how to get her done for wasting police time, harassing you with all those texts and reporting her if I could. DO IT.