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11 year old SD starting to test me!

Momof6WI's picture

My love and I have been together for about 2 years now, but his daughter only recently has started to test me. Example. The other day she was telling my son she renamed one of the chickens. My son who is 12 was like "um no you can't, she already has a name, it's Ivory". She replied with "well now her name is Maisy". I shut her down pretty fast, reminding her it was my sons chicken and she wasn't changing the name. I asked her how well she would like it if I changed her dogs name. She gave me a look and said "well her name is Maisy". I replied with"No, it's not". And walked away before I could get into a pointless argument with an 11 year old.  

Recently she found an old photo of her dad and mom together and hung it up above her bed. Keep in mind they have been divorced since she was 2 lol. It bothered me. It's my home. Her dad made her take it down saying it was inappropriate. He told her she could keep it but it would not be up on the wall. i have one daughter who is now 20, so I know how bratty girls can be lol, but this testing? Is. Getting. On. My. Last. Nerve!!!

She knows none of the kids are allowed in our room without permission, but she will go in there every chance she gets. Drives me nuts!!!!!

Her dad calls her out for it all the time, which I appreciate. I don't feel alone, and I'm glad he sees it. Part of me feels like it's her age as well. She started her period already, ever since then, she's been quite the brat. Lmao. 

 

 

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Harry's picture

If he calling her out all the time. Then this is not working.  Your main problem is your DH for not parenting his kid.  If he would punish her for going into your bed room,  That would stop very fast.  But he just talks yo her. And she is not listening or careing.

She is playing a control game,  she wants all the controls she can take. 

Momof6WI's picture

Not necessarily true. He's taken her tv away, phone, and laptop. He grounds her from going to friends and makes her do chores. I have no part in the discipline. Unfortunately we work on different shifts so I am the primary person in the evenings all the children are here. It will be at least another 6 months until he's on the same schedule as me. 

shamds's picture

there is rarely ever going to be an emergency that warrants them barging in uninvited. I know some will say we have an open door policy, but i like to lay in my bed almost fully naked so no skids are ever welcome. Only 1 time a did ss knock and wait for his dad to answer but when dad is at work he decided to knock and walk uninvited as i had just gotten out of the shower, i slammed the door in his face and told him to wait.

skids also shouldn’t knock unless its an emergency as closed doors mean “we want our privacy” this is basic parenting style from 80s and prior and most of us grew up this way..