What to know the secret of why your skids are self-entitled????
DH and I are reading STEPMONSTER together and we're in the section "remarriage realities".
It hits him like a brick thrown at his head, that the problem with his first marrage to psyco-BM, was that they put the kids first, and not their relationship, and that is the problem with his adult self-entitled brats now.
For the first year and a half we were together, I came second and it was an intense struggle with both of my SD's pitting us against each other, all the fights, and drama, etc.
Now that he understands, if we are to succeed as a couple, he must make me number one, and the kids revolve around that relationship.
I STRONGLY encourage all of you, if you haven't already, and ESPECIALLY those, who have husbands who WANT TO improve your relationship together and WANT TO understand the dynamics of what the heck is going on in your situation, to pick up the book STEPMONSTER and read it together and talk about what's going on together.
I can assure you, your relationship with your partner WILL improve.
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I am telling you, it has been a lifesaver to our marriage, which nearly fell apart 4 months ago.
Your partner's former relationship with the BM, was, for the most part, NOT a relationship, but a mere disfunctional partnership/room-mate situation. He's going to have to read to understand, they put the kids in-charge of the household, and made them equals. Something no child wants to have the pressure to do, or the maturity level to handle it.
God created women from Adam's rib. There is a powerful point to why God did that. Because they shall become ONE with each other.
"The biological force field will ebb over time if husband and wife are committed to making theirs the central relationship in the family system." "Without this commitment, the married couple will likely remain the weakest relationship in the web of the stepfamily relations"
"Your partnership....can be forever. Your relationship with your husband is the center that holds."