21 and a step mother
I am 21 will be 22 soon. I am dating a man who is 31 and has three kids. I just found out there might be two more but their mom just told him they may not be his and will not let him see them any more. I do not have any kids and I'm not sure whether I should stay with him. I love him I do not have problems out of either baby mama and the kids are still warming up to me and the youngest one I love dearly he has really come around and gotten use to me. They have not disrespected me as of yet. The only problem I have is with an ex girlfriend who just won't let go but they have no kids together. I feel like I have nothing to offer him cause they have already given it to him. But he has never been married so I feel like there is still hope. He acts like he loves me treats me really good (of course the normal arguments) he opens doors carries bags pays for dinner and most of all he always listens and we have fun together. I just need to know should I stay with him being that he has three maybe five kids and I feel like I can't give him anything at all all I do is cry cause I love him and I'm confused . Please please please some advice for me.
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I 2nd this, you have no idea
I 2nd this, you have no idea what you are in for.
Actually he does want more.
Actually he does want more. We have already talked about that. Do to some problems In the past I really dnt think I can have any kids to be honest so
Run just as fast and as far
Run just as fast and as far as you can. Not worth it beleive me find someone that has no kids or exwives. That is all I have to say, there is no more. Your life will be different than you ever planned it would be. And, your life will never be your own again.
No he doesn't have commiment
No he doesn't have commiment issues actually he asked me I never expected or gave any hints to being with the man. As far as the information he gave she did him wrong and we have a mutual friend who said the same thing and she was my friend first so no need for her to lie
I am finishing college as a
I am finishing college as a matter of fact I just graduated from nursing school so trust when I say he does not interfere with my life as a young woman. But he is a good person and it takes some ppl time to grow up
Your situation seems to be
Your situation seems to be closest to mine if u dnt mind I would like for you to be my go to person
This is so painful to read,
This is so painful to read, because those of us who are over age 35 know what it is like to have been as young as you. Unfortunately, life is the only teacher and we seem only to learn from our mistakes. There is no question in the world that you should not waste (no that's not too harsh a word) your life on this man. I don't need to know the details to know that this is a no-brainer. Unfortunately, it is not a no-brainer to you because you are young and feel love now and do not have the experience to guide your choices. If I was 21, I would be debating too, but there is nothing to debate. This man has lived his life and made his mistakes. You do not need to suffer for his choices, and you will! You are giving away the joy of carefree young love. You are giving away your time, your choices, your enitre future. You are giving away the joy of young parenthood to this guy who obviously doesn't think very hard about bringing a new life into the world. You have the world in front of you. Youth rarely listens to wisdom and experience, but if you are visiting this website, perhaps you are open to advice. Even if it hurts for awhile, it won't last long. Leave this man before you sacrifice everything you are. You are standing at the edge of a cliff. Do not step forward!
I do not think the fact that
I do not think the fact that he is 31 is a problem my dad is 9 yrs older than my mom and they are still married 22 yrs later he had 2 kids before her and it worked out fine. His ex wife and her husband come to visit and they get along great so it can be done
Get out now while you can and
Get out now while you can and before you become attached to SKids... for your sake and theirs...there is a reason he has never been married... sounds like he has no problem "playing house" though. Enjoy your youth and get yourself far away from this guaranteed life of drama that you are headed for with this man. Funny.. the song on the radio as I type right now is Montgomery Gentry's "While You're Still Young" this should be your motto!
Actually she did him wrong
Actually she did him wrong but I ve already asked the questions about that and I understand what ur saying
I am 21 FDH is 32 he has one
I am 21 FDH is 32 he has one son and its difficult sometimes time is never our own,saving for a wedding or a nice holiday is non existent due to ss needing something or needing to go to the doctor. thats just with one 3 would be another story all together i would suggest you have a long conversation with your bf about how he plans to handle maybe having 5 kids,as well as cs,visitation as well as schooling expenses and all of that or is he going to expect you to support his kids aswell?
To all of you thanks for your
To all of you thanks for your comments and advice I broke up with him today. I feel really bad cause I know that he is a very good person but I just wonder is him being a good person enough. I'm still confused though
I think you'll look back at
I think you'll look back at this in five years and be thankful that you didn't dive head first into an empty swimming pool.
The hurt and confusion that you're feeling now would be magnified 100 times had you stayed int that relationship (and that's being optimistic)...
I wish you the best and ((((((HUGS))))))