hi there, my partner knows about the site because I needed help with step parent issues and here was the only place I could turn too, However, I use an assumed name for practicle purposes, I can also talk about SD and BF without them knowing who I am. Once I have advice I then use this to talk to my BF about and help me thru certain situations. I couldn't do it without this site! Mx

Mine doesn't know, but I don't feel guilty. This is where I come to vent and get feedback. It's not like I am coming on here and having an affair or spreading lies and rumors about his child. I use this site as my outlet. I can't say some of this stuff to him because he doesn't see her the same way I do and I need to get it out. Pretty much everything I talk about on here, he knows about, but here I can actually say everything I am thinking and feeling without being lashed out as being a bitch, well, at least most of the time (see empatheticE's reply to my Ultimatum update post).

He sure does... he doesn't read though. He figures if I need to vent, just let me have at it... less for him to hear when I get it off my chest here. HOWEVER... he also knows that I adore his son and would never say a cross word about him here, or anywhere else for that matter. So that helps. I think if I had an issue with his KID and came here and vented about SS specifically, he would not be so understanding. My post are geared towards my frustation with BM.

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~

Yes, mine knows AND he's a member here.
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Mine does NOT know...... i may have mentioned i have read stuff or something, but no way does he know i'm a member..... i agree with redheaded, this is where i can vent my frustrations and aggravations --- most justified, some not.... and not have to worry about being some slefish bitch who doesn't worship the feet of skids..... i'm sure i've gone off on his ass a few times, but since this site those times aren't as frequent...

i'm getting better at letting it go until i can ask here or read where it has already been hashed out, then discuss with dh.... where as before ST, if i were able to let it go and not blow up at the moment -- i would just stew and then when it came down to talking i would go off like a volcano covering everything in a 10 mile radius...

no question, i need help....and ST really makes a huge difference..

Mine knows I'm on a site but he doesn't know the name of it or my nickname, nor does he ask. He realizes it's something that I need just for me & he doesn't intrude on it.

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".

If I didn't tell him he would want to know how I relieve frustration so quickly.

So yes he knows.

He has read a few blogs to see where I am coming from and read other people's blogs. He had no idea. It was ENLIGHTENING for him and us.

"I may not agree with what you have to say, but I shall defend to the end your right to say it," - Voltaire

Mine knows and he "Hates that stupid f*cking site"
To which I responded, "if it wasn't for that site, I would have left you by now. Your crazy ex, your daughter who doesn't listen, and you who's a guilty daddy? Yea, we'd be through"

****There are 3 sides to every story. Yours, mine, and the truth.**** -THE WIFE

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i should give my DH more credit ---- he would probably LOVE that i am trying and want to be better...... but sometimes i am flat out nasty about how i feel about skids & mil --- even though i have very good times with both of the them.... i just think those really bad blastings i need to get out of me or read others to diffuse me would scare SDH (sweet dear husband --- guys i love this man so much it's crazy --- you would think i could accept the skids)

Mine knows, he respects my privacy so he doesn't feel like he has to check up on what I post, but he knows that if he ever asked, I am more than willing to share. I'm pretty honest with BF about my feelings, so there's nothing said here that I haven't already said to him.

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DH doesn't know about me being a member or even about the site. I agree with some of you- I can come here to vent and get advice or look up something I am going through that others are too before talking about it to DH- even though I still couldn't say some things I say on here to him, although he knows all the facts I tell about skids. I don't know how he would feel about it, but I know the site makes me feel better!

My dh knows. He reads occasionally but tends to stay away mostly. He now respects the role of this site since it has seriously cut down on my spoiled brat bitching moments in real life. He realizes I need the perspectives from here to keep me grounded. He also realizes that he isn't meant to hear or see many of the thoughts I have on his daughter,mother and exwife. Just like I'm not meant to hear or see all his thoughts on my son,my ex, and my mother. Sometimes, we can't help having ugly thoughts but sharing them with the person you love won't really do either person much good especially since most of the time those ugly thoughts are just hurt or fear coming through. It is better to dig through the ugliness on here so you can then take the root of the problem to your loved one to speak clearly about your fear or heartache without the anger you initially felt clouding up the situation.
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"Never let the hand you hold, hold you down." ~Aut

BF knows I'm on here, sometimes I share parts of it with him, and I'm not ever going to put anything on here that I'd want to hide from him ... we talk it all out. As a matter of fact, he is the one that recommended that I find a forum, or something similar, to use as a vent/pressure release. As much as he'd like to understand what I'm feeling at times, there's no way he can, he tries his best and acknowledges that I need a place where I can see that I'm not alone in my feelings.

I can't imagine not having him know, even if I didn't want to share any of what I write on here.

**Beginnings are usually scary and endings are usually sad, but it's everything in between that makes it all worth living.**

Mine knows, but isn't real thrilled about it. He would never get on here and read - he feels it is a 'hen party' kind of thing! lol, fine by me!

But he already knows how I feel about everything, and is glad I can get it out somewhere other than at the dinner table lol! and more and more does listen when I tell him about a tip I get on here -

For so long he felt his situation was unique, and all his fault, and is now starting to hear, it is actually common, and there are many of us dealing with the same issues! which does help as we know!
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And may trouble avoid you
Wherever you go.
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Mine knows.... he even asks me everyday "so whats on steptalk today?"

Yep. She knows. She even thinks it is cathartic for me and enjoys when I read different threads to her.

Though she does occassionally take exception to some of the more creative and colorful wording I use in some posts when the topic is something I am particularly passionate about.

Best regards,

Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi (with some minor Rags modifications) To each according to their performance, screw Karl Marx. (Rags)

Nah, mine does not know. I don't feel guilty. There are two things in my life that are left for me...

1. This site.
2. My glorious bed (which I have to throw a fit about stepkids crawling into every Sunday morning - luckily FH has been respecting my feelings on this and telling them to stay off the bed...whhew..)

I get on here and I get help. That is more than I get from him - he just says it is "bitching." But since I have been on this site and reading everything and sucking in all the information I can - things have really been great for us and our relationship. We even have developed plans and he UNDERSTANDS finally - what I am going through...

I don't question his fantasy football or whatev- so he doesn't question this.

Mine knows! I even told him why I signed up, how much I've learned that I'm not alone in my feelings, he is not alone in his (which lead to guilty parenting, for example), and that there are ways to resolve certain, if not all, issues that we're facing.