I have never blogged before, but now I feel I need to, so I may save my marriage. I met my husband back in November 2009 and we got married in June of this year. This is the second marriage for both of us. I have two teenage daughters, whereas he has 6 year old daughter living with his ex who visits every 2 months, and a son who is married whom he never had married his mom. He has really never had his two children live with him 24/7. He talks with his daughter at least 3-4 times a week, where he never talks to son due to an argument over changing college majors. My divorce ended a little over 5 years ago and his a couple of years ago. When we first decided to get married, we planned June as the month due to my brother coming in from California. We made all plans quickly, him moving from 3 hours away and packing things up, to remodeling a basement for my teenage daughters, and planning the wedding. The busy stuff has subsided, and now its time to really get to no one another. After our honeymoon, I had an injury in which now I have to have surgery on my back. I am out of work, waiting for insurance approval, while being on some heavy duty drugs. My husband has really grown close to my daughters, where they confide everything to him, and alot of times not to me. I feel this is due to me always being the discepline parent. I know this is a good thing, but what's happening is when my daughter has his trust and tells him something, of course, me being his wife he will tell me. But, in some instances he tells me not to tell the girls he told me because he wants to keep them on his good side. Alot of these issues stem from my ex-husband saying bad things about me to my previous friends and saying things to my daughters that are not necessary because its hurtful toward me. I lost it yesterday to my ex over the phone, my husband says he couldn't "fuckin" believe I would say something to him. My husband says he has lost his TRUST in me as his wife!! He says, "who do you expect me to confide in, another woman?"

He went on to say since he feels this way I should think about if I want to be married to him or not. He says that TRUST in relationship is of the utmost importance, I agree, like I told him - its not like a cheated with another man! He says its just as bad. What do I do? He left on business this morning, not even a goodbye, and he slept in a different bed last nite, HELP!!!!