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Hatred.........Pure Hatred!

lylagarrett's picture

I was taught as a young child not to hate. I was told you don't really hate this/her/it you just don't like it very much. As I've grown older I have tried to live by those rules, but I can now say that hatred isn't a strong enough word for what I feel towards my husbands ex-wife. I have finally had enough of her and her lies, manipulations, etc. I went through a few months of complete depression because of her that I had to be put on an anti-depressant and see a counselor! My husband needs to do the same because he has even hinted at suicide before, but he is too hard headed to see a doctor concerning emotions. I say enough is enough and get a REAL life and leave us alone. She is remarried and has a child with her new husband who is age 14. Hubby and I have been married for 14 years, he was married twice before me. His first marriage is with the bitch from hell that he has the children with. Ages 19 and 21 now. We have a 10 year old son together. Our lives together are just great as long as the ex stays out of the picture. We will go a year or two with no problems and her trying to be our best friend and then WHAM! she knocks us down again. Financially and emotionally! So hatred again isn't a strong enough word to describe my feelings towards this woman. In 1995 she accused my husband of child abuse and had us investigated by DHS and when that didn't go the way she wanted she took hubby back to court for more child support. That time she only got $23 more a month. Years passed and time to time she would be "nice" and others a psychotic bitch. Medical bills were astronomical! Then in 2005 she had me and my husband arrested for domestic abuse which was thrown out basically. The charges were lowered to disorderly conduct because my husband did yell a lot in a public place. $10,000.00 in attorney and court fees later she decides she wants more child support again. Mind you, there is only one child left to support at this time who was turning 18 in less than 3 months. We settled in court and paid her $1500.00 and it was suppossed to be the end. One week after my mother passed away in December, 2005 we received papers from DHS Child Support Enforcement that she had turned hubby in as a dead beat dad. They have been holding $600 a month from hubby's check until we go to the hearing on the 18th to show proof that he had paid all along. This has been going on for 3 months now! My son has been taken away by DHS for 2 months, I've been in jail, and about to lose our home because of this evil woman. So again, Hatred isn't a strong enough word, but yet I can't think of one to describe the way I feel about her. I just hope that one day she gets what she deserves. A little bit of what she has dished out and see if she can take it! Sorry for this long post, but I just needed to get it off my chest and what better way to do it than here! Thanks for listening!


lylagarrett's picture

I reread my post and I come off sounding a bit selfish. Please don't think that of me. I realize that I am not the only one in my family going through hard times. My poor husband can't sleep and cries daily. (Being a "tough guy" the crying part is what he hates the most.) He says he is weak when he cries. My poor son, doesn't want to leave our sides! I understand that too! Being taken from your family who loves you is quite confusing to a ten year old. Then how do you explain to a child who is somewhat spoiled that the things that he is used to having, he can no longer have? Again, I didn't want to come off sounding selfish, because I am really not. I just needed to vent and it came off sounding like "me, me, me"!

Sweetie's picture

Dear Lyla,
It's really going to be okay. You've got friends here. Just remember me and my cement mixer and my roller will come over any time for you. I understand what you're going through. I truly do.
We could have a demo derby if you want. Smile
Go get yourself a margarita.
With warm regards,

lylagarrett's picture

Thank you so much! I am hoping the hearing on the 18th goes well and to our favor, but if not, have the cement mixer and roller ready! I think I may go out and have myself an ice cold Bud Lt tonight but who knows, I may have that margarita and drink one for you too!
Thanks for being a friend!

williteverend's picture

Just remember that it does have to end. I know it doesn't feel like it. I have personally been going through my own for a lot less than 14 years and had my own share of frustration and stress, so I feel a great deal of sympathy for you. I am just looking forward to the end. It just doesn't seem like there are any laws to protect the innocent new wives and their children and I am sorry for what you had to go through. Evil is a word that doesn't seem strong enough to define our husband's X. I just know that my husband's X is a truly miserable person and that, at some point in the future, her poor choices are going to catch up with her and hit her in the face tenfold. I have seen it happen...I can't wait to see it again...Keep your chin up and smile - that will tick her off more than anything.

lylagarrett's picture

You are so right about smiling would tick off the ex more than anything. It seems that my husband and our happiness is what sets her off each time she decides to take us to court or throw us in jail. She is so unhappy in her own life that she tries to make ours just as miserable. Each time she hears we have done something like go on a small vacation or buy something new for our home or when we bought a new car she flies off the handle and gets all psycho. It's okay for her to have all of those things but she doesn't seem to think that we should have them so she tries everything in her power to make it where we can't have them any more. The hearing is on Tuesday so everybody please wish us luck and thanks for listening!