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LRP75's picture

My DH agreed to only have one of his kids this weekend, and only one next weekend. This is in an effort to try to increase his effectiveness as a parent.

Anywho, this weekend is with the SS10.

He's just... yuck. Rude. Yes, "rude" is the best word to describe him.

Oh well, at least it's just ONE rude child, instead of two ganging up and getting all out of control. The two of them together are absolutely HORRIBLE to be around.

Even though I am not looking forward to this weekend, I do feel confident that it will be slightly more enjoyable than normal.

I did make a passive aggressive move and make my DH make dinner tonight. This is because, well honestly, I have ZERO desire to cook for a child that is rude to me.

Update on the BM: apparently the skids told her that we are looking at buying a house, because she has started in about child support again. She is such an ass. She can bitch and go to the courthouse all she wants. I only wish I could be a fly on the wall to watch the court explain to her that the "arrearages" on the account aren't arrearages at all, but rather that the state puts what is to be paid each month as a balance. A balance doesn't not equate arrearages dumbass.

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sonja's picture

Gah, 1 per huh? Although that may make the weekend less intense, it means ALL weekends right? eww

Apparently because we're on the 'paying' side we are not allowed to have things such as houses and cars.. if we are able to afford such, we CLEARLY arent paying the 'paid' enough!

LRP75's picture

No, it won't increase the frequency. The BM wouldn't let us do that (nor would I want it but my DH would - he does love his Little Angels...). BUT we have to figure out a way to make the time with the kids more enjoyable. If you want a description of how horrible my skids are, please read my other posts. Imagine an episode of Super Nanny, give your imagination a shot of steroids, and you might be close to what these kids are like.

SO, with that being said, having just one at a time is a DREAM!

NO ONE enjoys being around these children because of how bad they act.

And RIGHT about the CS sucking BM thinking that we shouldn't be able to EVER have anything nice. If she even notices my DH is wearing a new pair of shoes she flips the f*ck out about she needs more money. She is already getting almost $1,000 per month - with ZERO arrearages! Yes, we are looking for a house. Yes, we are going to buy a house.

Anyone want to take bets on how long before we get called into court to have support evaluated?

Shit, when DH and I got married, the very NEXT business day, she went to the court to file for a modification. Her justification? My income. It's not "fair" that we have two incomes in our house and she and the children have to "suffer."

Yeah, "suffer." She gets a f*cking $1,000 per month!!!

LRP75's picture

No shit! That's what I say too!

Believe me when I say that I am the one who will be paying for our new house - from the mortgage, to the utilities, and all the way to the upgrades. My DH will be able to buy food and cover the car payments only with what he has left-over after support is paid.

About 2 years ago, he went out an bought himself a new-to-him car for the cost of $10k. She had the nerve to flip out about it. Called him screaming about how she can't have a new car. If she sees he has a new pair of shoes, she screams at him about how she can't have new shoes.

Ironically, she NEVER calls him to say that the twins need something. It's always about how SHE doesn't have the money to buy what SHE wants and how her new baby (not the bio-child of my DH) doesn't have diapers.

WTF? Seriously? I could strangle the bitch.

It's called: "GET A FUCKING J-O-B if you want new things"!

I personally don't care if she has to wrap that baby's ass in newspaper - just so long as she quits calling us!!! Her power is getting shut off? Shiiiiit. Sorry to hear that.

When she complained to the courts about how her kids have to "suffer" because of "some loop-hole in the law" that prevented a raise in support because of MY income... I literally could have strangled her!

IF I could have been allowed to say ANYTHING - I would have said, "If the children are SUFFERING in your home due to YOUR failure to provide for them - then perhaps they should come live with us. Clearly, WE are capable of providing for them - we do so in TWO households right now."

I bet that would have shut her fat ass up real quick.

Honestly, she would be THRILLED if he were homeless, naked and sleeping on the streets for all the bitching she does about everything "he has and she doesn't have." She makes me sick.

I have one bio-son16. I could NOT imagine treating his father that way. Regardless of MY personal feelings toward the man (we got a divorce for a reason), he is still the father of my son and deserves to be treated with respect for that reason alone. On top of that, what freaking good would it do for my son to watch his dad live in squalor just so I could sit on my fat ass and do nothing all day?? Shiiiit.

Some women these days. I canNOT believe our judicial system still allows this shit to go on. Women's Lib my ass.

sonja's picture

Yikes! Glad you got that all out. Im sick of the exes always getting this and that.
We got FDHs CS amount reduced to an acceptable amount. She still doesnt have to have a job because she found another man to live off of. I say 'acceptable amount' because if FDH and I split I think it would be reasonable for him to be paying me that same amount for our BS (although he does require diapers and daycare, neither of which SD requires).

I dont know who comes up with the child support obligation chart used in our state, but its some major shit, the chart has random figures saying that you spend about 30% of your income on 1 kid.. ha! If I spent 30% on BS, Id lost the house a long time ago! Ugh, I agree major changes need to be done!

LRP75's picture

Yeah, Yikes. Apparently I needed to get that off my chest. Re-reading what I wrote and I can see that it's pretty volatile. Although I stand by every word I wrote, the veracity in which I wrote it is, perhaps, slightly inappropriate for this format? Eh, either way... THANKS FOR LISTENING!

The reality is, when zombies attack, none of this will matter.

twopines's picture

>>>The reality is, when zombies attack, none of this will matter.<<<

Best.line.ever.