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And I should feel bad..why?(vetning)

Kmommyof388's picture

So quick update on the party situation, I was informed that skid might not be able to make it to the party cuz his mother's parents are taking him to Disney world that week...so of course dh is all bummed out *even acting like the reason for the party was for ss* and he' acting like we need to either cancel or reschedule it for his spawn to be there....I want to scream *THIS PARTY ISN'T FOR SKID OR ABOUT HIM AT ALL ITS ABOUT OUR TWINS! NOT YOUR FIRST BORN!NOT EVERYTHING IN MY LIFE NEEDS TO BE ABOUT HIM FFS!*oh I should feel so horrible if I have the party anyway cuz after all my whole damn world should only be about his kid not our children we have together I should feel ashamed! And bad...why?

 

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Harry's picture

It will be more fun without SK.  Party is for twins, who ever shows up that will be great.  Have a great party 

Daisymazy2's picture

He misses a party to go to Disney world...oh my, poor SS.  If you want to look at your DH's logic, you should take the twins to Disney World because SS went.  SS is going to miss things that you have planned.  It is just the life of a Skid.  He will do things at his BM's house that your twins do not get to do. Your twins will do things at your house that SS doesn't get to do.  

The party is planned and will go on as planned.  Everyone has already made plans for the party to be at this date.

I have never understood the logic of how the world must STOP until a Skid is home.

queensway's picture

OMG this is priceless. Kmommy you should tell DH that SS gets to go to Disney World and the twins don't get to go. That it is not fair that the twins miss out on that.

Have the party as planned and have a wonderful time.

harveysantana020108's picture

So I deal with the same thing! My Fiance just received visits throught a custody battle and now every event if centered around the weekends that SD will be over. We have a 3 y/o and a baby on the way can you believe he check the calendar to check if she would be with us on my due date! Like omg I canT get with this at all. I have my own children and their life does not revolve around SD.

Kmommyof388's picture

Exactly,  he just expects my life and my children's lives to revolve around the skid it's not gonna happen I'm not allowing my kids  (His kids too) to feel like they'e less important than skid

Tiger7's picture

calmly....that there will be thiings that skid will miss out on just like your kids will miss out on.  Bio kids in the same family miss out on thiings that siblngs do for lots of reasons.   they all need to learn that's life!!

Kmommyof388's picture

Ugh so frustrating he doesn't even see my side of it...but of course not especially when it' about his golden child...just cuz he has to miss out*aka won' be there for anyone to switch focus to him* Anand I'm sure EVERYONE on his family will be like oh where is ss? Shouldn' he be here it' not fair to have a party with out him boohoo

StepMamaBear6's picture

"DH, it is too bad that SS can't be at the twins birthday.  It is probably for the best.  The twins are so much younger than him and he probably wouldn't even have had a good time.  What kid wouldn't love Disney World!  We will have to thank his grandparents for taking him there!  So, the twins would really love to have xyz for their birthday.  Can you remember to buy it or should I?  I am so glad we get to have this birthday party for them!  They will LOVE all the attention!  I can't wait to watch them smash their birthday cake and get frosting all over their faces....."

Seriously, shut it down with logic and move right on to how much your kids will love this party.  If he still whines, tell him, "Hey man, I am trying not to lose my mind on you for making our kids' party about SS.  Help me out here.  It is what it is.  Stepson can't be there.  Let's enjoy the day anyways."

If he still acts like an a$$, just lay it all out there!