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Any advice for custody hearing

kd622's picture

Submitted by kd622 on Mon, 09/14/2020 - 10:57am

The lawyer has been hired and we go to court in 2 days. DH has 2 of BM family members that will be speaking on his behalf stating what a train wreck that BM is and how SS is neglected while living with her. I am also scheduled to speak however I don't know what I am going to be able to add. I don't know what goes on at her house. Any advice on what i can look forward to adn what may be asked of me? BM doesn't have an attorney 

 

I am sure that this isn't going to to be pretty and that BM will make DH look like a shitty dad while she herself is a shitty mom. Should be entertaining if nothing else. 

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justmakingthebest's picture

Submitted by justmakingthebest on Mon, 09/14/2020 - 11:11am

They will probably ask you things like what your relationship is with the kids, what things you do together, how discipline is handled. What you do for work, what your schedule is like, how you support your husband.

You never know what will come from BM's lawyer. Probably wild accusations of abuse.

tog redux's picture

Submitted by tog redux on Mon, 09/14/2020 - 11:12am

What are they going to court for? Why are you involved? Thankfully, I was never involved with court in any way. 

kd622's picture

Submitted by kd622 on Mon, 09/14/2020 - 11:24am

child custody becasue mediation didn't work (big surprise). 

I would rather not be involved but that indicates to DH that I don't care 

still learning's picture

Submitted by still learning on Mon, 09/14/2020 - 12:06pm

I would excuse myself from speaking at or even attending since this is DH's court issue. You can tell him that you trust him to handle this on his own and will support him through it.  Tell him you're scared, shy, whatever. Just get out of it. Custody hearings are awful and you will be cross examined by BM's lawyer.  Willingly doing this is placing yourself in the crossfire of your husbands war.  You'll be enemy #1 in the eyes of BM forever once you get on the stand and testify against her. Even if you're not testifying against her but for DH she'll likely try to make your life a living hell going forward. 

Thumper's picture

Submitted by Thumper on Mon, 09/14/2020 - 1:54pm

Don't do it.

All of this is smoke and mirrors. What you have to say, what they have to say does not matter. DOES NOT MATTER.

Custody will remain the same, unless custodial is flat out on court steps in a Stupor.

Just tell dh and his lawyer you have decided against giving any testimony as you believe it is best for the "CHILLLL-Drennn" that you remain neutral.

He who sits in the witness chair must be ready to be torn apart by the other side. DON'T DO IT.

Do not go into the court room either...Judges dont like --appears your gaining up on x.