Do you skip events where BM will be present?
FSD has an event coming up. BM will be there and FSD and FHD both want me to attend.
However,BM had been sending me text messages for several weeks that were at first hateful but quickly turned threatening. I threatened legal action and she began texting me through the anonymous text message provider textem. I was able to have my number blocked from the site and FDH gave BM an earful. I have thankfully not heard from her since.
This woman made me miserable for weeks as I attempted to contact the web site she used and have the situation taken care of. The thought of seeing this hateful, rude, lying woman makes me sick. However, if I refuse the invitation I feel that BM "wins". I will not be held hostage, so to speak, by a bitch. A part of me wants to go, just to show her that she can not shake me.
What would you do when a step kid's event puts you in the presence of a bitchy BM?
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i agree with snicker.....
i agree with snicker..... but fortunately in my case the only person that signs sd up for stuff is mil and since mil lives 45 mins away she can attend skid events.. bm always says she will go and NEVER does ~ either way bm's attendance would not affect my decision.
mil frequently quilts dh into attending this shit and he only caves once in a while. and it's awful funny how great sd is and her team is, but every time dh goes it's just the opposite..... so i think both mil & sd are learning it's better if no one goes, that way sd can be as "amazing" and "perfect" as they choose.
I go! If my dh goes I go! End
I go! If my dh goes I go! End of story! I refuse to let bm dictate where I will go just b/c she is there. Yes I was in similar situation as bm harassed me to the point I had to file charges against her. I look at it this way the more she sees us a couple the more she is likely to get it that we are together and always will be.
I do try not to sit next or near her. EVER. I go for the kids not her.
After some recent events I
After some recent events I will no longer be in the same room as BM. She is vile, evil and a liar I am done.
^^ Haha, oh god, the stalker
Haha, oh god, the stalker texts were enough thanks. I'm hoping to do without BM drama for a minute.
The event is big enough that FSD and FDH want me there but at this point I have decided to go, primarily to send a message to BM. I more or less hope to assert that her daughter invited me, her ex husband is in love with me, and as she has been told repeatedly she can NOT harass/threaten/ disrespect me.
I'm sorry if I sound dramatic I just know that it will be hard to face her after some of the things she has said. Thanks for your support and advice ladies!
I always went. BM never
I always went. BM never attacked me or harassed me, but she would come up to me and say stupid stuff. She would wait til dh wasnt present and then tell me things like, "in the future could you please make sure such and such is packed in his bags for the weekend" or "I need 20.00 to reimburse me for paying for my own son's medications." My general response was, "sure" or "I'll let dh know" all said with a big smile as I walked away. Of course then I did whatever I wanted as I always did.
SS lived here for many years and he and my ds were often in sports together-so then I was at all the piddly practices and games-even when my dh couldnt be.
I am with purpledaisies, I
I am with purpledaisies, I dwouldnt go for the skids (they are all over 18) but I would go to support my df. He likes my company and i enjoy his, so we focus on that. In fact one of the SDs is getting married this year, so im sure bm will be there. i am going as well bc the sd getting married is the most civil one out of them all. I dont have any problems with Bm, just with the other Skids. I am curious to see what will happen with pictures though. I dont necessarily want to be in the pics, but I would like to asked. We'll see. if things get incomfortable we can leave. As long as we stay for the ceremony thats all that really matters. Besides I like to go to events where all the skids will be just to show them that I am sticking around no matter how much they disrespect me.
dodgegal I can tell you right
dodgegal I can tell you right now that when my skids get married dh will refuse to have his pics taken with bm. It will be separate like when we got married we had pics taken with his mom and then with his dad and step mom NO pics with them together.
I go top everything with my dh b/c we are a married couple and married couples don't go to these kinds of events separately. besides in my situation if dh was to go alone bm will get this crazy idea that dh and I are going to brake up and they will get back together. She has done that before. I was sick and was unable to go to a game and dh promised ss13 he wold be there so i told him to go ahead and go. Well lets just say bm had it plastered all over the place that they were getting back together and he was leaving me. Lesson learned.
My df unfortunatley is a huge
My df unfortunatley is a huge push over. one of the other skids got married last year and they had pics together, one at either side of the skid. (his skid, her bio). So im sure he'll do it again. He doesnt see my point and refuses to try.
I also go to piss the skids off, not intentionally. It justs happens. I dont let them walk all over him when i am around. I make comments about whats going on and be positive. I am nice, dont get into arguments. He doesnt mind being treated like shit, which makes me even madder bc they have lowered his self esteem to that point. So i get mad about them treating me disrespectfully and him being okay with them doing it. its a good thing we dont see any of them that often.
I guess i am so invested in this relationship for two reasons, I love my df and to prove them wrong.