I feel like I can move on now.
So my back story is that I was once close to SS22 but a 1 and 1/2 we found about his drug addiction. I have not seen him in a year and SS22 was at a birthday party I threw for my husband this past weekend. He is been in a least 2 in-patient rehabs and several out patient rehab places in the past year or, including 2 sober living facilities. We have spent plenty of $ on his care over the years. He does not work. Claims he is will stay sober this time.
When I saw him this past weekend, I saw him for what he really is - a parasite - he never cared about me at all. And now since I no longer give him any money he really wants nothing to do with me.
Fine by me - because he is a creep and I want nothing to do with him.
I am actually relieved he looked "medicated" when he arrived, barely was able to say hello to me. Only asked me about stuff he could take out of the house.
I can say I am really done! I will no longer worry about him.