The past 5 years with SD21 have been rough. It started with mean comments, stealing my things, making up lies about me and telling these lies to others, as well as convincing the other two skids to believe them. It escalated last year to her trying to get SD16 and SS15 removed from DH's custody because I'm so terrible and getting CPS to take the kids away because of made up accusations about an argument between DH and SD16. She also threatened to beat me up, etc.

So for the last year+ things have been rough, I've held my ground in stating that until she received therapy and worked on herself, that I wasn't going to work on any kind of relationship with her. I've long suspected that she has Borderline Personality Disorder (her mom is BPD/HPD). And SD21 meets the criteria for both of these (cutting/suicide threats, intense relationships, manipulative etc.)

So 6 months ago, she starts dating this guy. A week later he moves in with her. Two months after that they decide to rent a house together (both names on the lease), they're going to get married, etc. I'm telling DH that this is a problem, she barely knows him, DH hasn't seen her without him since they started dating, he just doesn't seem OK to me. But everyone thinks he's great and treats them as if they're married since they live together.

A few weeks ago, SD21 calls DH and says "My BF is in jail". Two days earlier, DH had dinner with them and BF told him that he had gotten into some trouble when he was "younger" (he's 20). A cop stopped him after he went to pick up his friends and one of the friends had some drugs and a gun in his backpack. None of it was his fault, but all the friends pinned it on him, blah blah blah.
SD says that he was on probation and the terrible PO said he violated his probation and he was going to jail for 36 months.

Now I'm no pro at the legal system, but this story makes no sense to me. So I go and look him up online on the state database. He had 30 some charges, and 19 of them were FELONIES. Seems that he and his friends had been breaking into cars, stealing things (including the gun). He got 36 months suspended sentence. I tell DH this, SD lies to him repeatedly about the circumstances of why he was arrested for violating (story kept changing). Turns out he is a probation absconder (meets a certain set of criteria) but basically has been avoiding his PO for a month. Turns out he got arrested in December (before they signed the lease) and this was his hearing. The judge threw the book at him. He's in county jail awaiting transport to the big house. Did I mention he's 20, 5'8", blond, slightly built, and way too pretty for prison?

Moral of part 1
- DH realizes his daughter has been lying to him for months and will tell a lie to his face even though she's "trying so hard to mend relationships"
- SD begins to realize that there are consequences to actions, that you can't fuck around with the legal system. She's still in denial, telling DH "he didn't do it", "he didn't violate probation", "it's that bitch of a PO's fault", "it's the lawyers fault", it's the asshole judge's fault" and "it just isn't FAIR daddy!"
- Most importantly, I am NOT a crazy mean bitch, out to get his daughter - she really is still screwed up and in desperate need of therapy