He is suspended from school for three days. DH had a training session he could not get out of today, so I worked from home. DH will be staying home for the next two days.

Skid is only allowed out of his room to work. Aside from that he is to sit in his room, doing page after page of math (Algebra2) which is his weakest, and least favorite subject. He has been more than eager to work today to get out of doing math, his problem is going to be for the next two days he will be stuck doing pretty much pure math as most of the work that needed to be done is done.

He has washed ceiling fans (removed the blades and light globes washing and drying each, then re-installing and re-balancing them)
He has scrubbed the floors in the house, on his knees with a scrub brush.
He has scrubbed both bathtubs to include ensuring the grout is spotless white.
Cleaned the drains in the bathrooms (lots of long haired girls in the house)
He has scrubbed the porch with bleach and water.
And even washed my car and vacuumed it.

Then he asked to talk to me. Sit. Talk about something related to how you got your ass in this sling and what your going to do to earn your way out of it .. or nothing. I am not discussing girls, hobbies, tv, video games etc.

He did apologize to me.

And has no excuse/reason/thought process/ vague notion/ not a clue... why he acted like such an ass. He said it was like standing outside his body watching it happen, with his mind screaming at him that it was not going to end well but at the moment each happened he was so "angry" he couldn't stop himself.

Why was he angry? Again no clue. There are no girl issues, no school issues, no major issues with being in trouble at home (normal teenage crap but hell he wasn't grounded or anything!) No one is picking on him at school... at least they weren't he expects them to now since he shoved a girl and punched a handicapped kid. He even acknowledges that he deserves it if the kids do pick on him.

He is not athletic, so its not steroids.
He is not into drugs or alcohol, that is really not a worry for us. (band geek)
He does not have a violent history at ALL. He is more the type when he doesn't get his way, he crosses his arms over his chest, gets a massive pout on his face and sulks like a little kid.

He did admit that the last few months of being DH's #1 he has enjoyed and perhaps taken advantage of. He admits to a point feeling a little apprehensive since Skid1 is getting her shit together that she will go back to being DH's 'favorite'. But he realizes he is his dads oldest boy and no one can take his place that they are all DH's "favorites" each has their own special nickname that DH addresses them by.

Myself? I think the kid is still going through puberty and is having testosterone/ stupidity surges that turn his common sense OFF. It takes a kick in the ass to get the knob turned back into the ON position.

I think I am going to talk to DH and see about modifying the lock down. I don't think it was deserved for what happened IN HOUSE on Sunday. He has apologized I am thinking since the issue arose over going to a friends house that him not being able to go to a friends house/ have friends over for a period of two weeks is sufficient.

Now the issue at school. Eeesh. Part of his punishment he is still rather sore from. Those boys kicked his ass WELL.
Part of it the school has dished out. (Suspension)

I am thinking (and please let me know if I am going wishy washy):
That DH ought to give him his clothes back
Put his room back together

But leave him grounded from the electronics/phone/social life/ etc etc for a specific period of time.. a week, two a month whatever... while yes, what he did was WAY wrong... he is also being/has been punished by others... I don't think dads punishment needs to be endless or as DH put it "Until I am tired of seeing the shit stacked in the garage and decide to let you start earning it back".