I told him everything about my conversation with SIL. He was upset and will be talking to FIL tomorrow. He was understanding as I broke down about this. I will never be able to understand a family that embraces the ex-wife and her new husband. Just so you can understand even further my husband's ex sued him about 2 years after the divorce that she didn't want his mom near his daughter or son. She had to pay for his lawyers fees but, she won and they were not supposed to be near the kids. Now 4 years later and she has needed somewhere to send my SD so they are fine now.

This has destroyed me today. I called the doc for anxiety pills and have now drank a bottle of wine. A very expensive bottle I might have. I know more drama is coming when he makes the calls to his siblings and father. So tired of being the whipping boy for this. It is all I can do not to go off on BM to stay away from my IL's. I know they are all planning this dinner together and I should suck it up, but it just ducking hurts that after 9 years with my husband, BM is more important than I am. He was really hurt tonight that his mom would do this, but not surprised. Not sure why I still am.