Place your bets, folks
DH84 and I are celebrating our 48th anniversary next weekend. We are staying at the casino 2 nights and I've got a pedi scheduled. Can't wait!
The only concern is SD60. There's a pattern recently where she runs out of money by the 3rd week of the month and has a medical emergency in the 4th week. In February, erratic behavior caused her neighbors to call 911. She was admitted to a hospital with high heart enzymes. When we took her home the next day, her place was a mess and we went thru hours of confusion and running around trying to get her phone working. Last month, she collapsed in a doctor's office and was taken to another hospital and kept overnight for tests and observation. When we picked her up the next day, we spent an hour driving the hospital parking lot looking for her car. After awhile, she realized tbe doctor's office was off campus 4 miles away. In other words, she had no idea where she'd left it. DH drove it and SD rode home with me.
I took the opportunity to tell her as directly as I could that we couldnt handle these trips anymore. Here I was, with my eye condition, doing 3 things I shouldn't: driving a busy highway, driving at night and driving in the rain. I told her that DH, with his oncoming dementia, shouldn't be driving any unfamiliar routes , like these hospitals. When we got her home, she ran in but was right back. Did I have a key? Who knows where hers was. Yes and I gave it to her. After awhile, I sent DH in when she had not returned it.
He says he has had a long talk with her about straightening out (stop drugging, stop lying), taking care of herself (down to 98 lb and doesn't eat consistently nor take her meds on schedule) and following up with all her docto's. She has legitimate medical issues but doesn't follow thru on any of it.
So my question is, which if the following do you think will happen next week:
1) We will celebrate our anniversary as planned and have a great time.
2) SD will call Thursday or Friday from some medical facility with an urgent emergency and we will end up postponing our weekend while we deal with her issues.
3) SD will call Thursday or Friday with an emergency but we will be able to escape in time to get to the casino Friday but we will arrive later than usual and I'll be resentful.
I don't normally talk to DH about SD since I've been disengaged but today, I said I hoped her monthly pattern doesn't happen this month. Just to let him know it's all predictable. She's already run out of money. I guess we will see.