I'm 76 and DH is 83. We raised 5 kids and have 9 GKs. My DH is a warm, caring, funny man but he's had it with kids. 3 of our GDs have recently invited us, or wanted to talk with him and he's balking. I understand how he feels but I hate to see their feelings be hurt.
GD38 recently moved to our city with BF and dog. She asked to stay with us temporarily until they got settled but I had to tell her no because he had many objections. No problem, she stayed with the other grandma until they found a duplex. Whenever she visited, she hinted strongly that we 4 should socialize (sporting events, eating out). They dont have friends here yet so I understsnd altho I knew he would never want to. I went over to see her new place one afternoon but I know she really wanted him there, too. Well, last week she called close to tears, would we want to come and say bye to the dog who had been diagnosed with advanced cancer before they had him put down the next day? There was no way to avoid it so we went altho DH whined all the way over and complained after we left.
GD29 had a baby in August. We went out to see her and baby, a 50-mile trip on busy highway that was terrifying with DH driving. She complained later to her mom that he hadn't held the baby. We didn't go to the baptism. They sold the house and while a new one is being built are staying with her dad who lives nearby. She invited us for lunch today and to see the baby, now 10 months old. DH has been trying to think of excuses not to go. I said, we are going. He complained some more before going to bed. I told him, you are the luckiest person on the planet, many people wish their GK would invite them somewhere.
GD21 was in school out of state. For awhile, DH was calling her each Sunday evening but then he stopped. Her dad, YSS, has brought it up to him several times. He says he will call but usually doesn't. The last time I spoke with YSS, he said, remind Dad to call GD21. He's not doing it.
This is just a vent. I know there's nothing I can do to change DH. He's just tired. He paid his dues with all our 5 kids and altho we both worked, we went to birthdays, sporting events, recitals, plays, Grandparent Days, etc. But I hate to see the GDs get their feelings hurt. Sigh.