UPDATE to Will I Regret This?
Here's SD23's response...kind of hard to read because she writes her response in between my original paragraphs. My response to her is at the bottom. Needless to say, my DH is livid! He's mad at her, but you can bet it'll get turned around and he'll blame me.
Subject: Ok - here goes...
My Original message:
Ok - I don't know what's upset you this time or really most of the other times but I have tried my best to get along with you. The last few times we have seen you everything seemed fine - so what's the deal? If you think I'm stopping your father from seeing you, you are so wrong! I have encouraged him REPEATEDLY to go see you, but when we try to make plans with you we usually get blown off.
What it is this time?...or every other time is that you don’t say much...and if you do your REALLY FAKE about it! So I obviously know you don’t care!...And it seemed fine the last few times is because I’m not being a rude bitch..and calling you out on your fake personality you have going on in front of everyone!...And I DON'T think your stopping my father from seeing me but you usually make it and uneasy visit!...And I don’t blow you off because usually I WORK!...and don’t have the luxury to take off when ever?...I also go to school FULL TIME!...So I forgot to share with my husband the plans I had made?...thought he was going to be working at first and found out he wasn’t..so then I told him that we had plans to go to your home for a fish fry...well he made other plans to for our friends to come over!...not my fault except poor communication between us both!...since I now have a child and haven’t seen most of my friends in FOREVER!..i couldn’t pass this up!..sorry...plus I’m sure it would be a day of you being fake around all YOUR family and friends and trying to show them how your an AWESOME stepmother NOT!
My original message:
I have told him that since it seems to be you having a problem with me, then he should go see you without me - he won't. He says it's not right for him to have to go alone because we should be a family. Well, SD23, I've tried to be friendly with you and it appears you just don't want a peaceful relationship. That's fine by me, but stop this crap with your father. You are being so disrespectful to him - you seem to forget all the things he has done for you, how he raised you. You know he could have been a total ass and dumped you with your mother - who by your own account didn't give a rip about you, your sister or even your little brother. But he didn't.
And he's RIGHT, we should be a family..BUT I don’t think you want a FAMILY!...being you don't care much for my sister and myself?...for whatever reasons?..And the fact that it seems YOUR giving UP!.. because I’m not praising you and kissing your ass!...Well JMC, let me tell ya sister it appears to me that you’re not a peaceful person!..your try your BEST to do your little childish shit to just piss me off! FOR instance your "IM NOT LISTENING"..i mean REALLY wtf??..AND DONT TELL ME ABOUT STARTING SHIT WITH MY FATHER!.. I DO RESPECT HIM!..because yes he has done everything in this world for ME...but he's not been his self lately because some of the SHIT that’s been said or acting towards me is NOT my true loving father!..ITS the BITCH in the background YELLING a BUNCH of BULLSHIT! and my dad repeating it in his words that he use to never speak to me!...I don’t think you really got to meet my dad before you took advantage of his KINDNESS! AND some how he REELED in something MUCH WORSE THAN MY MOTHER!...YOU
My original message:
You need to remember just who raised you, gave you everything - it certainly wasn't your mother. It was your FATHER and his parents - your grandparents. Just because I came into to picture didn't mean he stopped loving you - you were an adult when he & I got together, although at times you certainly don't act like one. You cry and scream you want us to all get along & to quit dragging up the past - well Brittany, it seems like you're the one who won't let go of the past problems. We all make mistakes and I have admitted to mine and apologized for them. I don't know what else you want from me, so maybe you should tell me.
And jus for the record I didn’t bring up the past your stupid dumbass!...I just said I couldn’t make it to the fish fry because i DIDNT know my husband made other plans!..That’s what started it and your SMARTASS comments rubbing off on my dad about how I knew about for 2WEEKS!....well yes i did but like i was saying ME AND MY HUSBAND 'DH' HAD POOR COMMUNICATION!...AND HE MADE OTHER PLANS! did you understand that?...what part of that was the past???? I also KNOW my dad hasn’t stopped LOVING me although i bet you wish he might because your mighty selfish!...I bet my dad treats your beloved K9's better than you ever treated us!...AND i don’t think you have admitted to anything?...and talk about being an ADULT remember your the STEP-PARENT?...or do you even deserve that honor?...because that’s not what you’ve stepped up too yet ...my HIGHSCHOOL GIRLFRIEND!
My original message:
If I have offended you or pissed you off, you need to confront me about it and let's get it out in the open and work it out - stop this bullshit NOW. You probably don't even care, but DH is having some serious health issues right now - how would you feel if something happened to him & you never got to see him ever again? I know how that feels - I lost my brother whom I hadn't seen in years because we were both too stubborn to make amends over something really stupid. I cry everyday because I miss him and never had the chance to make things right or tell him how much I loved him. Don't make the same mistake I did. Your dad doesn't deserve this punishment you're handing him. You may not like me, but I'm his wife and I love him - can't you at least be happy that he's got someone who loves and cares about him? You really don't seem like the type of person who would be so selfish - but unfortunately,your actions are exactly that -
And of course you KNOW you have!...that’s what you’ve intended to do otherwise you wouldn’t have sent me this email!....I’m not DUMB...DUMBASS!...you want CHILDISH you got it...I really can’t believe I’ve stooped to this level but I have because I can’t stand your SMARTASS anymore! NOW I KNOW MY DAD HAS HEALTH PROBLEMS....If they have gotten worse i don’t know because he never shares that with me anymore!...which I’m sure they can’t be awesome because him being a diabetic and as much as you guys eat out?...that’s not helping him there WIFE!....being you’re not diabetic you don’t have to worry but you should consider his health too!...NOW my theory is that you’re not helping my dad’s health therefore your STONE COLD HEART don’t give a flying fuck what happens to him!..And I do! SELFISH comes to mind when I hear the word LYNN!...because unless its QUEEN JMC's way it don’t fucking happen because she’s running the castle NOW!
My original message:
Now you can either choose to call everybody and tell them what I horrible bitch I am to be sending this message to you and have a lil chatfest about how you all hate me & whatever, or you can put on your big girl panties and act like an adult and try to work to have a better relationship with your father. Your choice. Choose wisely.
I don’t think they have panties big enough for you to put on because you’re so FULL OF SHIT!
My Response to her response:
So sorry you feel this way....Sorry to disappoint you, but I'm not fake - never have been, never will be. You should know that by now. I usually don't mince my words either...unfortunately at times I can be very outspoken. I believe that's part of your problem with me; I don't hide my true feelings. Your response says alot and is most certainly very childish. Some of what you've written in your response doesn't even make sense. "I'm not listening" WTF back at you, SD23. No clue as to what that reference was about. Just for the record, I don't have to tell your father anything about you or put words in his mouth - he's starting to see the true self centered little brat he raised...he even said so today after he hung up talking to you; he said that the problem with you was he had given you girls TOO much and you took it and him for granted. But if it makes you feel better blaming me for what he says to you, go right ahead. You see, I love Ted and I don't mind taking the blame. You are really a bitter, miserable child, aren't you? I can only hope you don't pass these characteristics on to your daughter as your mother has to you.
As for DH's health, I'm not the one forcing him to eat what he does and by you saying something so ludicrous, it just shows your ignorance. DH is an adult, he knows the risks of what he's doing, either by eating unhealthy and smoking, which my dear, I have continually tried to get him to quit, even going so far as to get him a prescription for Chantix. It's not me who's causing his health problems but the stress you're causing by all the crap you do and keeping the hatred and venom flowing is most certainly not healthy for him. So before you sling mud and accuse me, you better look in the mirror, honey.
Oh yeah...one more thing...don't trouble yourself to refer to me as your stepmother, as neither one of us really like that title, lol! Honor? I think not! I just thank Jesus that I'm not your bio mother. You get what you deserve.
Oops, make that two more things....you don't need to send this to daddy because I already did...needless to say he's not very happy about it; disappointed in you were the words he used.
Oh yeah, I may be fat, but I still get a chuckle out of you saying SD19 was stealing your thong undies the first time she lived with you...what did she do, wrap them around herself two or three times?!! No freaking way she could wear your skivvies! lol
Skipping the love my dear, so as to not be fake like you, but have a nice life, Brittany.
The "Queen" JMC