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Graduation Day has Come and Gone! Does This mean The End Is Near?

livingonaslipperyslope's picture

Sd23's college graduation was last Saturday.The whole day and night was a circus and a slap in the face to me as I was not invited to the ceremony or the party that was paid for by my FH. Of course he did ask me to go to the party about 15 minutes before he was leaving, but I politely declined as I wasn't invited. He said I am inviting you, and I say it's not your party you are just paying. Needless to say he told me he did not want to be at the party and would only be there about an hour and then we would go to dinner and a movie. Of course he never shows up or calls, when I finally call him at 9:15 he says and I quote - "Hey babe I am just settling the bill and will be home after that.:sick: :barf: - this is 2,1/2 hours after he promised me he would be home. Honestly how can he act so cavelier - as if my feelings mean nothing? Well we had a huge fight over that as I explained to him that not only did his precious daughter disrespect me all day, but then so did he. Of course he apolgizes and admits he f'd up, but really what does that mean?

I am cutting grass and weeding and her cousin, aunt, mom, boyfriend and grandpa are at our house at 10:00 am to get dressed and take pictures. Why is it that I am the only one to offer food and drinks to these people? And why do I do it when they don't even acknowledge my existence otherwise?

I have hope that SD23 will finally get her shit together and get out, but first that would require her getting up every morning at a decent hour and trying to find a JOB. So far nada...she has slept in and partied late. He says her bf is working 2 jobs now so they can move out - my exact words - oh I see she has found another daddy.

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KittyKat's picture

Inviting you 15 minutes before he leaves??? Not showing up or even calling when he's hours late. He'd be my EX-FH.

And, I agree with the above comment....you are not invited to her party, she talks to you like crap, yet lays around in YOUR house? That is SOOO wrong....please don't let these people treat you like this!!

I'd insist on a VERY LONG BREAK, to say the least, from this whole crew. You need to set some serious boundaries, they are taking major advantage of you, amiga. And once that door is wide open (taking full advantage), it's very difficult to close.

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."-Eleanor Roosevelt

herewegoagain's picture

oh my...she needs to get out...you are a saint! no way that I would put up with someone living in MY house not inviting me to something like this...no way...she would be out or I would be out. I hate to say it, but she is taking advantage of you and your DH is disrespecting you by not demanding that you be included...he should've never gone if you were not invited...I don't care if it's his child...that is unacceptable...

Funny thing is that these "kids" can do such things and their fathers not care...but if we were to say "we're getting married but your 23yr old is NOT invited" they would flip out!

Good luck to you...but you need to DEMAND respect or get out...they will walk all over you if you let them...and nobody deserves to be treated this way...she is one ungrateful 23yr old.