Thank you for agreeing with me on that one. If I have to hear that one one more time, I think I will just tell them the story. Why are we always supposed to sweep what SK do under the rug and yet we are constantly judged.

But guess what? Apparently now a days you have to have a high school diploma (not even a GED) to enter the military. This kid is only in the 10th grade and still taking some Freshman classes because he failed last year. I could not believe this when I heard it because on their websites they say a GED is ok, I mean you can get a GED and go on to college for pete's sake. But when I talked to the vice principal at SS school who is a former military guy (as is my husband) he said they have changed and they only take kids with high school diplomas. My husband wants SS to join the military, and that is part of the reason why he wants SS to finish high school. I'm like the kid is almost 18 and in 10th grade, maybe high school isn't the place for him. We are looking at the JobCorp also. I just get so tired of it. This kid should be thinking for himself a little bit too. What does he want to do with his life. My husband says that if SS screws up this year then that's it, he's got to get out. But I am afraid my husband will resent me because this kid is really almost helpless. What are we going to do just throw him out? Yes, I would like to, but I don't want to see him hurt or anything like that. I told my husband last night that if we are going to be taking care of SS for the next 10 years, we might as well have a baby of our own since we won't be able to be doing the things we want anyway (I want a baby, he doesn't).

you feel like you are the only one who sees a problem and you keep telling people and everyone says "it's no big deal" or all the excuses like Crayon listed. And get this, one thing I left out is that SS usually meets his father at the door when he gets home from work. What kind of teenager does that????? He used to do it when I first moved in with them, but then he stopped, now he has started doing it again. It really makes me mad for some reason. It's like, excuse me, I would like to greet my HUSBAND. Sometimes my husband will bring me flowers or something sweet like that, but guess who's always right there so I can't really respond the way I want to. And the lurking around! One minute he's outside and literally the next minute I hear noise in the kitchen and it's him. It just freaks me out! And I know he likes doing that because when I first moved in he used to think it was funny to sneak up behind me and scare me. My H finally told him to stop doing that. So I guess this is his way of still trying to get to me. And he always acts soooo innocent, "what me, poor little me do anything wrong" It's amazing that when the kid is gone to visit someone, my husband and I are able to relax and we really don't fight about stuff. When the kid comes home, the tension goes back up! My H and I have never really had time alone except for the few times SS goes to visit grandmother and then H is working or I am working so it's not like a vacation of anything. We didn't have a Honeymoon. And the one vacation we took, to visit H family so I could meet them, we of course had to bring the kid. Thank you for responding and letting me know I am not the only one!

"I think this really got through to him this time." Yeah, right.

He knew I had no kids when we married. He knew I wanted one. He refused to have any more children. But like you said, I feel like I am always the one doing the compromising. I feel like I have no say in what goes on with the SK. It's like my opinion doesn't matter. I started out actually liking, even loving my SS, but now, I just can't stand him. He just uses people and lies and manipulates. His family lets him get away with it because he is an only child and his mom died. He is an unfeeling little bastard. And I can't stand him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!