Are there any men that actually follow through with anything regarding their kids?
Last weekend I heard the dreaded words " dont talk to me, your not my mom" from my boyfriends youngest child. After 3 years or being in their lives on and off, vacationing with them, taking them places, buying them things, playing with them, loving them... the time finally came. I was not even involved in the argument (which stemmed form being asked to run an errand and not have 30 minutes of his all day excessive game play) )- I simply asked " its only 30 minutes you will be right back" and got the dreaded statement. My boyfriend was not in the house at the moment. When I left, and texted him what happened.. he just said I am sorry and I will talk to him. Later, when I asked how he handled it he said "I told him that was hurtful, but that I would talk to you about staying out of our arguements".. I WAS FLOORED!
Rather than say " the next time you speak to her like that, you will never see the game again" Or " After all she has done for you, that is what you say to her". unacceptable..
He turned it around back on me.
I told him exactly how I felt and he said that he stands by what he said.. that he was not in the room ( although even if he was, he would have just snapped quickly and let it go)
The kids are smart, great in school and polite in public. However, they have NO discipline at home. If I hear him say one more time " I am not your slave" to which they jump up, argue then do what he asked - I will puke.
We have talked over the years about chore charts, making family agrements, punishements.. but he refuses. He says that eeryone is stuggling with said kid and that he is working with him. I am there enough to know this is not true.
We are supposed to talk in the next few days about what happened but I know what he will say.
Short of me never being there when they are around ( totally possible) but then how does a relationship move foward.. I am at a loss..
Is this just how it will be forever? Do I just stay away when they are around and only go to things when its an outing?