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Submitted by jaja512 on Thu, 09/20/2012 - 11:28am

Ok so my SD13 has a boyfriend her dad found out and had a fit! He don't want her having any boyfriend do to the fact last year she wanted to give a guy head and he wants to keep an eye on her becuase of what we found out last year. She was walking to school today and she said she was walking with her best friend which was a girl and she for got to Minchin her boyfriend to well we got in to the car as she started walking and as we turned the corner she was walking with her boyfriend so her dad called her and said who was the boy she was walking with she lied about it and said she didn't know who the boy was. So we have know idea how to get this girl to calm down on the boys help please.

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Thu, 09/20/2012 - 11:56am

My SD14 had sex last year at age 13 and was already giving her boyfriend handjobs and blowjobs and having phone sex and sexting him. Poor DH thought she was just this innocent little precious baby until she accidentally left her facebook messages open on HIS cell phone and he saw how she was carrying on with her boyfriend.

He tried educating her, punishing her, took her to the clinic and had her tested and educated about teen pregnancy, STD's etc. Thought it all had sunken in, until the following weekend when she came back to stay with us and we caught her having phone sex (since she was told she couldn't SEE her boyfriend, she said this was the only way she could "get him off"). DISGUSTING!

Anyhow, she now lives with her mom full-time since mom gave her cell phone back, mom continues to let her date this boy and have him over unsupervised (as long as there's another friend there - ha), etc. Mom wants to be her best friend and doesn't discipline her or have any rules or restrictions.

DH and I believe this girl will either be pregnant or contract a disease within the year. Also, her reputation in middle school has already given a clue as to what life will be like in high school when she's a freshman at 15 (she failed last year and got held back).

UGH!

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Submitted by HungryEyes on Thu, 09/20/2012 - 12:21pm

On a smaller scale, my SO's D6 talks about her boyfriends all the time and how they kiss. Which really upsets me because she does it in front of my sons. I told SO that she shouldn't be talking like that and he said 'oh kissing on the cheek is fine' and I just looked at him like 'REALLY?' Because tell her at six it's okay to kiss boys then what does she think at age 10, 12, 14? I wasn't even thinking about boys at age 6! I was playing power rangers, baseball, and occaisionally Barbies.

I think BM puts a lot of stock in relationships and how important it is to 'have someone' and I think SO is probably a little guilty of that too and you can see what damage that can do to a young girl to wrap self worth around a relationship.

But his kid - his problem, right?

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Submitted by RedWingsFan on Thu, 09/20/2012 - 1:27pm

Tell me about it! Everything DH did to educate her and discipline her for her actions all went flying out the window the minute she got home. BM was all "awwww, my precious little baby, did dad upset you?" PUKE...even BM said in a text to DH, "if SD gets pregnant, I will not allow her to keep the baby, she will have to suffer the pain of giving it up for adoption".

Yeah, but you'll allow her to maintain having phone sex with him and permit him to come over while you're at work as long as there's another friend there? Why not allow him to just have sex with her on your fucking front lawn???

Seriously, BM is such a whore herself that she doesn't see anything wrong with SD at all and thinks this is "normal teenage development and she's exploring her sexuality". HUH? My daughter is only 6 mos older than SD is and the LAST thing on her mind is sex!

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Submitted by RainbowsAndDaisies on Thu, 09/20/2012 - 1:23pm

Take her to the OBGYN and get her on birth control ASAP (preferably not the pill so she cant forget). You cant stop her from having sex or being interested in boys if that is what she is determined to do. You cant stop her hormones in their tracks either. You CAN make sure that she doesnt end up paying for it for the rest of her life.