Another testing weekend
So, another testing weekend, receiving phone calls from SS at half 8 in the morning asking when I can pick him up from BM's house, my SO is at work, i work from home and also have a toddler of my own to take care of, he also called his nana and his auntie to ask them as well, turns out BM was off to the pub. My SO told him he would collect after work later that day. Fine. He came, always askng what time are we going to said relatives house, when are we going (repeatedly asking), we get there, he's miserable, crying when other younger children than him, boys, getting rough as they do, bearing in mind he is the oldest, because "they're being too rough", then constantly asking what time we are going home, only to get home and complain he is bored!! We had a lovely family dinner yesterday, a Sunday roast, my SO and I had gone to a lot of effort for a nice dinner, SS was looking forward to the dinner, then when all was cooked and laid out he had two mouthfuls, said he was full (this happens ALOT), when SO tells him to eat more, then come on the water works, "I feel sick" "I have tummy ache", it drives me INSANE.
Everything I buy, everything I own, all he ever says to me is "My Mum has that as well", "my Mum's got that", i know she hasnt, i just dont understand the point of saying it? I, for one, am in no competition with anyone, i dont try to replace his mother, I never have, but i do find that whatever me and SO do, his BM is doing the exact same thing shortly after.
He's obviously very insecure, my husband and I both feel he is not getting the love and attention at home that he requires, but my SO is unable to co-parent with her, she is utterly evil to the core. We think she is possibly mentally abusing him, we know she alienates him from us.
It's so exhausting and draining, I feel I try and try to make an effort, try to get him to follow the rules of our house but feel like i am fighting fire consstantly.
Anyone else experience anything similar?
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You can feed him first
So he finished before you eat. He can do something when you eat. I would not put up with him making a circus of your dinner.
You can feed him first
So he finished before you eat. He can do something when you eat. I would not put up with him making a circus of your dinner.
You are playing his game. Of never being happy about anything. Make everything uncomfortable for everyone
I know it sounds petty, about
I know it sounds petty, about meal times, but this has literally been going on for years, I seem to be the only person who sees through this act, i think he plays on a lot & uses his anxieties sometimes to get what he wants. Meal times for me are about family around the table, eating what you are given, it's the way i was brought up and it's the way I am bringing my daughter up, why should he have his own set of special rules?
If DH feels this child is being abused
What is he doing about it? Is this kid in some type of therapy?
Inunderstand it's annoyimg, but this kid sounds like he has problems. Your DH needs to step up.
Ive been in my skids life for almost 10 years. BM has been blocked from contacting me in any way due to her antics. You do not need to be her or the kid's contact. They need to be addressing your DH.
We are currently trying to
We are currently trying to get him some help sorted, a third party that he can talk to about what is going on at home. BM doesn't contact me, SS has his own phone so is able to call all of us as and when he wants. He doesn't call me all the time, it was just Friday that he rang and rang wanting to come to our house earlier, i never answered & told his Dad to call him and speak with him about keeping calling but we are both at work and cannot collect him earlier. Problem is everyone in his life is so focused on giving him everything he wants, he never gets told no, apart from by me.