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Killjoy's Future, Settled

Ispofacto's picture

DH would deny it if you asked him, but he's been surly the past couple of months, as usual worrying that Pumpkin won't get exactly what she wants.  Fully enmeshed in the roller coaster of trying to find a glamorous college that will give her a full scholarship.

She's reached the age of 18 without ever having a job.  It's commonplace nowadays, but it shouldn't be.  Having a job teaches more than ECs do, imo.  Especially when you are an entitled, wasteful twat sans empathy, like she is.  DH and I have both been working since 12, cutting lawns and babysitting, then grocery stores and restaurants, until we each graduated college on our own dimes.

Well, it's finally settled.  There are no more full boat athletic scholarships due to covid, but she did get into our local community college as a last choice, only because one of the coaches there knows her, since she is also a coach at Killjoy's expensive VIP club sport.  Free tuition at CC doesn't amount to much, but she'll save a ton not going to a private uni.  So much for her dreams of full boat at a posh school.  Her narcissism must be hurting.

As a CC they don't really have campus housing, but they do for the athletic students.  For 200/mo, she can share a two bedroom apartment with three other girls.  Lucky them.  Eww. 

But that means she won't need a car, so we can take her off our insurance.

She'll also need food, say 50-100/week?  Dunno.  Maybe throwing food away will stop being fun for her.  There's no cafeteria, just a subway and taco bell.  Dunno how'd she'd get to the store.  There is a public bus service.  It would take her to the grocery store in DD/DGD's neighborhood.  Eww.

Weeks ago, in desperation, I did tell DH I'd be willing for us to cover her tuition only at a CC, but never her living expenses, espcially as she'd most likely be living with Satan.  So now he floated the idea of paying her rent since her tuition is free.  Meh.  If she wasn't an arsehole, she'd be living here.  So, no.  And if we did that, she'd turn 20 without ever having a job.  So, no.

I mean, we could then claim her as a dependent on our taxes, but really, I want to disentagle ourselves from her.  It's a bargain, but I hate her.  We already spent 50k on her stupid sport, and 40k living in separate households because of her.  Not to mention all the stupid legal problems she participated in.  She needs to claim herself on taxes, so she can get aid for her final degree, if she pursues one.  College isn't for everyone, it's only necessary for certain professions.

They're offering all kinds of cushy on-campus jobs.  Not the soul crushing type where the cook verbally abuses you.  She'd only have to work 15 hours/week.  

The worst thing about this is she'll only be 2 miles away.  Eww.  I was hoping she'd go to the moon.  I'm sure DH is delighted.

Maybe now she can disengage from Satan, if she wants to.  That would be telling.

I get my DH back at the end of May.

 

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hereiam's picture

I'm so glad that you will finally be getting your husband back. This has been a really crappy situation for you.
 

CLove's picture

I said this to SD15 B/M and she got so mad at me lol. She thinks shes going to go to college and get free money to pay for it, without good grades. These poor entited Children Of Divorce. I dont see SD!15.5 who is 16 in May getting a job for a loooooong time. And no drivers license until maybe 18...because parenting.

She can rot over there in community college cesspool of inertia (I went and maybe 50% like myself went on to uni). 

Ispofacto's picture

I hope they enjoy poverty,  unless they can con some SO into supporting them.  Such is the cycle of dysfunction. 

 

Harry's picture

Pay so money for SD college to keep her living there. Away from you.  Money well spent.  Few $$$ a month for food. Subway, Starbucks. 

JRI's picture

I was a "mature" student, went back to CC at 37.  I was impressed by the quality of instruction.  I had the feeling CC could be several things.  If you want it to be grade 13 for an immature person, it can be that.  If you want it to be a trade school, it can be that.  If you want it to be the first 2 years of the most demanding university, it can be that.

Here's hoping SD takes advantage and gets the best out of it.

Livingoutloud's picture

Agree about level of instruction. Everyone I know who took CC classes feel the same. 

yup as everything in life. It's going to be what you make it to be 

Rags's picture

At CC, and at uni.  I agree, CC can be great. If I were retired I would probably be in class at either a CC or a local Uni.  Just because I love school.

If I could find someone to pay me $6 figures to go to school, that would be my career. Sadly, I am not holding my breath on getting that job.

Dirol

Livingoutloud's picture

Ton of people went to community college first and are very successful. And there are people who think it's beneath them and going to universities is cat's pajamas yet they live miserable lives and are still low income with all their degrees (often useless degrees if they don't know how to apply them to be successful).
 

Both my nephews went to community colleges first and are now very successful high pay engineers living a great life. Ton of other people are in the same boat. I'd not put  CC down for no reason. It's a great start and excellent responsible way to save money  

JRI's picture

I went back to night school at 37.  I was employed full time and had 5 kids at home.  I was going to need statistics but algebra was a prerequisite.  The first night, they tested and I was thrown back to Basic Math!   It was going to take 3 semesters of prep just to get me to algebra!  I sputtered and ranted,  " You cant do this!  It will take forever!  I have a very responsible position!  Rant, rave, waaaa!"  Three semesters later, I made it thru algebra, then statistics.

Flash forward and after 5 years at CC, I transferred to a local highly-rated university where my degree required more higher math.  The last one was a toughie and people were dropping like flies.  But, thanks to my little ole CC, I made it thru.  Thanks, CC!

caninelover's picture

Glad you're getting DH back.  Reality bites these narc SK's hard.

I would consider paying the $200 in rent as insurance that she ends up nowhere near you.  Food is her own responsibility, she can either work or starve.  Just my two cents.  

Ispofacto's picture

I wasn't knocking CC, the instruction there is often better than uni.  It's just that Satan thought Killjoy was Harvard level smart, and the world's best athlete, so CC is beneath her.  She was supposed to go to a D1 school.  According to Satan, she is "the perfect child".  She literally said that, when she was going on about Killjoy supporting her, starting with being Killjoy's freeloading college roomie.

JRI's picture

Since SD is the perfect child (cough, cough) then Satan won't have to worry about her success at CC.  Lol.  Keep us posted.