SD16 being sent overseas
SO found out last week, that BM has decided to send SD16 overseas to live with BM's parents. Apparently, BM has had enough of SD's behavior and this is her decision to make. Also, SD16, is apparently, happy with it and wants to go. All this was told to SO by SS15. So, she left the country yesterday, and will reside overseas for the next 2 years. SS15 thinks it's a good thing as she's very disrespectful and violent towards their household. E.g. BM "asks" SD to clean her pigsty of a room. SD responds "effing do it yourself and leave me the eff alone". So BM gets SS to do it so as not to upset SD even further.
SO has mixed feelings about his. We're all from this country, so we know first-hand what it's like there. Great for adults..not so much for kids. For one thing, they still believe and carry out canings in school if you back-talk or give the teachers attitude. Another is that nobody puts up with the "victim" mentality. They expect you to grow the eff up and act in a mature manner, otherwise, you will get slapped or given a massive hiding. I, personally, think this is a good thing as it teaches you to respect your elders and eachother.
I think SD16 thinks it's going to be one big adventure. She will be in for a huge shock. It's considered a third world country so internet access is limited (they pay big bucks for data usage) and the weather is constantly humid with thousands of mozzies and flies..not to mention cyclone season and the never ending rain!
BM did NOT plan to let SO know until AFTER she'd left. SS thought this was wrong, and told SO when he had his weekend visit.
SO will be going to see a lawyer about this and has already contacted Child support. He wants to make sure his payments go to the Grandparents if they have agreed to have SD live with them for 2 years. He's convinced this is a huge mistake but feels helpless to do anything.
I'm just thinking..WOW! So happy I'm not a part of this crazy drama any more!! Thank God I won't ever, ever have to deal with her..ever again!!
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I will give her 6 months
I will give her 6 months before she wants to come back. Wait, she's actually going to have expectations placed on her and have to respect her elders? WHAAAATTT???
How was BM able to ship her off without approval from her father? Does the CO support the kid being sent overseas by BM's unilateral decision?
Well, regardless, good luck. But I bet soon she will be begging to come back because life is just too hard for her. In the meantime, enjoy your peace.
I don't even think she'll
I don't even think she'll last 3 weeks..lol!! BM shipped her off without approval from her Father due to the dramas with their passports around Xmas 2016. BM decided to take kids on a cruise, and got their passports for this. According to the passports office, as the kids were 14 & 16 respectively, they could travel overseas with their Mom, if they chose to do so. SO tried to fight it, as he knew that it was only a matter of time before BM booted SD out to her parents overseas, as she wasn't coping well with her.
BM took the case to court (passports for the cruise), and Judge allowed it and made SO pay all court costs including BM's lawyer, amounting to $6G. SO tried to tell the Judge that BM would send kids to BM's grandparents overseas, whenever she chose, once she got their passports. Judge told him he was being ridiculous, and allowed the passports. So, not 2 months upon them returning from the cruise, BM has now sent SD to live with her parents (SD's grandparents).
SO's concerned because last time kids went over, they were 6 & 7 for 3 weeks. They returned completely traumatised and SS was covered from head to foot in infected mozzie bites, for which he still bares the scars from today. All this, to no avail.
So..as far as BM's concerned, she now feels she can do whatever she wants with skids..and SO can just suck it and continue to pay child support.
I know, Sueu2, I was trying
I know, Sueu2, I was trying to be polite, but your dose of reality is probably more realistic. SD, quite simply, thinks she is going on an exotic vacation to Grandma's house. When reality hits her upside the head, she definitely is going to want to head back to BM and Disney Dad where she isn't caned into respecting her elders.
OP, enjoy your Peace and Relaxation Program while it lasts.
Yep..I give it 3 weeks. I
Yep..I give it 3 weeks. I know she's going to absolutely hate it there. Hate it. Especially once she finds out that nobody's going to treat her like a poor COD who should be treated like china glass.
After the last dramas with SO, he is really trying to make things work and while I'm also trying, I feel a bit distant from it all. SO is still recovering from my BS and I inspecting apartments last week and he knows if things worsen, we'll just be up and out.. as I told him..I'm to old for this bulshit and there's nothing to hold me to him..absolutely nothing.
As for SD - either she will come back sooner, or BM will send for her once she discovers that child support will be paid directly to her parents, and not to her. BM also won't be happy when Child support agency directs that she must also pay child support to her parents, as they will be the ones caring for SD, and not BM.
SO knows this is a mistake because teens tend to go wild in our country..drinking from 15, partying all night with the tourists..and forget about school.. we've all been there and done that. Thing is, once our parents cottoned on..we got the father of a hiding from them. Don't know if BM's parents (75 & 79) are able to handle SD..but they agreed to it..so we shall see. SO also knows that BM was spoilt rotten by her parents and he can see them doing the exact same thing to SD.
As for me dealing with SD? Nope, hell no and triple hell, no. That. will. never. happen. You can trust me on that. Hell, I'd rather jump off a goddamn cliff.
Sounds like this is the best
Sounds like this is the best thing for SD, even better than military school. She'll beg to come home very soon,no internet and being caned in school doesn't sound like a teen girls dream. If I were DH I would stand as a united front with BM on this.
stop stop stop - you sending
stop stop stop - you sending SD here... to Mars.....
poor poor me... do you hate me that much?