Background: My ex and i have been apart for about 7 years, and we have a wonderful relationship, i really consider him a good friend, and we coparent better than most married couples. We even moved into the same neighborhood! I had a perfect little life, with a college degree, my own condo in a great part of town.

About a year ago, i met and fell in love with my dream man.  His ex wife had issues with us not being married, so we rushed the marriage. Everything was going so well... The youngest started calling me momma *insert name*, SO and BM even started getting along... Now she is actively working on sabotaging my relationship with the kids, and even submitted documents to the court requesting i don't have anything to do with the children.
She is so moody that i can NEVER do anything right. A couple things we have done to piss her off: 1. SO told her that we would feed the kids before she picked them up after she asked us to, 2. I picked up the kids on time at her house (she pretended she wasn't home and texted SO while i was waiting at the door, that he was "an ass". I think she expected him, and not me, but didn't tell either of us.  i had picked them up several times before without issue) 3. I told her the times I gave  her child medicine (this started WW3, I was "implying she was a bad mom") 4. And then there was the timd I didn't know about a doctors appointment for her child... That she didn't tell me about (I was "playing games")... Each of these incidents made her not talk to us for a few days.

mind you, i can be a bitch, and i have no issue with sharing those times with you, all complete strangers.... but the things she said were sooo not true. Some things she said weren't even based in fact : for example i apparently"body slammed" her (we have NEVER had a physical alteration); SO is behind in child support (he has paid to the day each time, with overpayments of almost 4k over the last year.)

She tells the kids they can call from my phone day or night..., but she threatens to get a restraining order on me if any calls were made from my phone to hers.

I used to try with them and her, but now i just don't care anymore. I don't even want to be around her kids. I used to like them, and now i can't stand them. I feel awful, because they are kids, and deserve to be loved. The other day, i actually slipped and said to the youngest when she was crying for her mom, "if she loved you, she would be here".

I've been with my new husband for any a year now. I think Ive got myself in too deep. I hate my life because of BM and her poorly behaved kids.