Why people and families and kids are disfunctional?
It has been 11 days since the incident with my step-son. This is what has occurred since then. No counceling appointment has been booked for him. His dad had one conversation with him supposedly laying down the law and he came back to our house last night not acting too worried about getting the boot for bad behavior.
Families are disfunctional because of adults running the household not having any balls to act like parents. Mother's that keep saying "oh, poor baby" "you poor victim" and Dad's that tower over the kids but allow the kid to have the upper hand.
I am starting to feel like this is a perfect set up for ME to get abused. Right now I am. I am the one that is targeted. I am the one personally attacked. I am the one who is having my personal affects vandalized. Guess what? I am the one who clearly is going to have to explode the bomb here. I am going to have to stir the pot and lay this kid out and get him out of the house. If my husband can't handle him then he needs to go. Now the little A-hole doesn't want to go. BUT, still refusing to comply with the bare mininum house rules we have. Still doing passive aggressive stuff too. He has NO intention of complying because why should he? What will happen to him if he doesn't comply? Maybe an hour of xbox taken away? As soon as my husband shows any anger the young man calls mom and say "oh - dad is yelling at me". Ridiculous!!!! He has earned his right to be angry and respond appropiately. Out in the real world you do lousy things to other people they are going to get angry. This is why we have all this passive aggressive nonsense. Mom won't let people be angry - including him. Can't handle confrontation at all. Dad is the same way. Can't handle confrontation. Fighting verbally is important!!!! Putting stuff out there is needed at time. We have to express emotions and get them out. Well - I am giving it today and tomorrow as I told my husband and then I pull the "sh#t stick out" and show it to him and get a nice show going. Best case scenerio he will never come back!!!!!