Given up on Counselor - now reviewing possiblity of SS moving in with her when he turns 16
Someone once said to me here that my SS was a casualty of the divorce. I am realizing now that he is. The counselor that my husband and I hired to work with our SS is a nightmare. She has completely sugar coated and "pretended" that the BM is not lying and that she is following a parenting agreement that we all know she ISN"T following. She says "prove it". We have the other sibling along with 2 step siblings that SS is NOT following agreement & spends all his time in his room. The emotional bond between my SS and his BM is destructive as the love connection they have the BM uses to poison, brainwash and get this young man with "other issues" to resist being comfortable in our home.
His other issues that the counselor has admitted to his having a "depressant" personality and social anxieties but apparently that is "OK". She feels the environment should change to adjust to this and if he is more comfortable in mom's house than that is where he should be. There is no respect for all the heart, soul and MONEY that we put into my SS.
What I am asking is "how much". If he takes us to court when he turns 16 years old and we object CAN the judge still increase the child support. We have a very high mortgage due to the buy out my husband had to make on his own (a couple years before he met me). Right now he pays $1500 a month plus pays the kids medical/dental and we have 50% custody. He makes about $125k a year. We live in Massachusetts. My fear is that we are going to not only be screwed by losing the SS but also we will have to sell our home.
I can't tell you what a disapointment this has been for us that we hired a counselor - sought a legal letter - and the counselor has turned on us. It has been so unfair & this woman is AWFUL. She makes no sense & isn't even making decision in SS best interest.
Who accepts the social/emotional/behavioral issues he has? He has symptoms of Aspergers.
Anyone know what we could end up paying if she gets full custody??