Need some parenting advice please :)
So this sort of piggybacks off my last blog entry.
The last few weeks, SD3 has been an absolute nightmare and traditional discipline is not working (we do timeouts). AND she only acts like this on the first day we have her. By the second day she has "re-programed" so to speak and is back to her normal behaving self.
Anyway, before this new change in behavior, when you asked SD3 to do something, she would happily comply. NOW, she will stand there and pretend to be having what looks like a seizure. And she will also forcefully fall forward as if there is someone behind her pushing her to the ground. AND while she is doing this she yells, "you're hitting me!" or "you're pushing me!".
It is both irritating and horrifying given the circumstances that we were just in with BM calling CPS on me. I am going to start video taping her when she does this.
Also, last week when we had her, I didn't want to be alone with her because she was doing this so I asked FMIL to take her while SO was at work for a few hours. When FMIL took her to her house she asked SD3, so what happened with you today? And SD3 told FMIL "I was mean to mamaLady" and laughed, but then she got a little sad about it like she felt guilty.
We think BM is telling her to act like this.
What should we do?
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Aww!!! How confusing to a
Aww!!! How confusing to a little girl! It's really hard for kids that age to transition, and now with whatever drama happened with Bm calling CPS, it's got to be very stressful and confusing for her. I would make a couple rules with her (like 3 tops). And when she arrives remind her what the rules are. Like "no hitting. no yelling or screaming. do what you're told." Something super simple. Also do the same routine when she comes... like have dinner, read a story, etc. Make it as predictable as possible for her. That should help.
It's gotta be scary for you, sorry it's so stressful right now!!!
I am usually standing right
I am usually standing right there until she starts the "you're hitting/pushing me" thing and then I walk away. She also has started with the "I can'ts". As in, it's time for lunch, hop up in your chair! "I caaan't"
Or "grab your blanket its nap time" "I cannnn't" and then she starts in with the seizure thing. It's exhausting. Not only are we video taping every time it happens but we found that taking away her toys helps. Every time she starts doing the seizure thing and saying "you're hitting/pushing" we take away a toy and put it in a bin and then when she does something good like use the potty or just listen and do something without having a "seizure" she gets to pick out one toy back.
She's a relatively well behaved little girl it's stressful and worrying where these behaviors are coming from.